Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Religion
Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.
Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Unitarians -- United States -- Biography; Ware, Mary L. (Mary Lovell), 1798-1849
"You remind me that I omitted one item in my defence, the mere
mention of which will answer many of your queries. Who can tell
how often a person, blamed for the disregard of many
considerations which ought to influence the conduct, is
inflamed by those very considerations, restrained by those very
motives? We see what is done; we cannot see what is forborne.
In proof of this, after I recovered from the long illness which
followed immediately upon my arrival at home, three and a half
years ago, it was five or six months before I felt any thing
like elasticity of mind or body; the least effort fatigued me;
I looked perfectly well, and every body was asking me why I did
not go here, there, and everywhere. I knew from my feelings
that I still needed rest, and I took it. Change of air,
consequent upon the necessity of attending Mr. Ware in his
sickness at Concord, produced a great change in my whole
feelings. I seemed well again; but I knew my system had
materially suffered while abroad, and I determined religiously
to abstain from all effort of all kinds that did not seem
perfectly safe. No one knew any thing about it, I was so well.
Still I persevered. I literally did not walk across the room,
or eat a meal, that winter, without deliberately arguing the
case,--was it best or not? In this healthy state, I went to Dr.
W.'s lecture, and was very prudent afterward; yet when my
severe sickness commenced, it was all laid to that lecture; I
was talked to, even in its worst stages, as if to be sick was a
crime, and I have not to this day heard the last of it....
Again, I never in my whole life did so _imprudent_ a thing as
undertaking the journey I did last spring; there was no one
reason against the probability, almost certainty, of its
injuring me. I knew the risk; no one else did. I took the risk,
because I thought the object authorized it. The result, after
much suffering by the way, was favorable, and all was well. Had
it been otherwise, there would have been voices enough to point
out that it was wrong....
"There is one simple question which I wish to have
answered,--How do other people attain infallible correctness of
judgment? Is it by experience or intuition? If the former, have
they not suffered from their experiments, sometimes erred in
their calculations, and should they not have charity for others
who are going over the same ground? If by the latter, should
they not pity those less favored than themselves? I will not
trouble you any more with my egotism. Remember, the best favor
you can confer is, when you think I am doing wrong, to check
me, ask me why, show me wherein I deceive myself; and never
fear to speak plainly to your grateful friend,
"M. L. WARE."
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