Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
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Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.
Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Unitarians -- United States -- Biography; Ware, Mary L. (Mary Lovell), 1798-1849
The struggle was over. Henry Ware died, at Framingham, on Friday
morning, September 22. A Sunday intervened before the body was removed
for burial, and that day Mrs. Ware went, with her children, morning and
afternoon, to their accustomed place of worship; desiring it for their
own sacred communion, and believing it most in accordance with _his_
feelings. To her faith, with her habitual view of duty and death, this
was probably no effort. To many it would be impossible, even with the
same faith; for, unhappily, association and custom are allowed to check
our highest aspirations in the holiest seasons, so that many would
consider such an effort unnatural and strange. Is it not more strange,
that it should ever seem unnatural for a Christian mourner to go to the
house of God, in the most solemn hours of life,--especially when that
house is completely identified with the life and image of the departed?
Mrs. Ware was grateful also for the power of associating the idea of
Death, in the minds of her children, not with restraint and gloom, but
with the place of prayer and praise, and the cheerful presence of devout
worshippers. It was a beautiful exemplification of her high trust, in
harmony with her whole character. We honor the principle, and thank her
for the act.
True, it was an altered and saddened house to which they returned, yet
saddened by no gloomy aspect, disturbed by no busy preparation. There
was less than usual of care and hurry, instead of more. "It was a holy
season," says one of the daughters, "those days after dear father left
us; no bustle, no preparation of dress, no work done but what was
absolutely necessary; it was like a continued Sabbath." Then, on Sabbath
evening, after a simple religious service, the "precious remains" of the
husband and father were taken in their own carriage, by the wife and
eldest son, to Cambridge; where, the next day, the more public ceremony
of interment took place.
But of this whole experience it is right to let Mrs. Ware speak in her
own letters, several of which we add. The first was written the day
after the funeral, to an absent child, and the others to different
friends after her return to Framingham. We take them from among many
written at that time, either in answer to offers of sympathy, or as a
relief to a burdened heart. Of necessity, they contain some repetitions
of the same thought, in similar language; but it is best to give them as
they are, that we may see in them how great was the bereavement and how
deep the anguish of one whose countenance was always cheerful.
"_Cambridge, September 26, 1843._
"MY DEAR CHILD:--
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