Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
It is commonly asserted that the normal woman desires to be a mother.
Now, this may be true, but what is forgotten is that all women are not
normal, and thus there are many who not only have no desire to become
mothers, but exceedingly dislike the idea of bearing children. You
may say this is an unnatural condition; but such a use of the word
“unnatural” is surely wrong; nothing is “natural” to the man or woman
save what they have evolved, and by that I mean what they have come to
desire to be; and my contention is that we have evolved a type of woman
unsuited for motherhood because she does not desire it, and for such
a woman it is “unnatural” to be a mother. Of course this turning away
from motherhood is in numerous cases the result of wrong education, and
is dependent on the weakened constitutions and shaken nerves of women,
which forces them to fear the pains of child-birth, as well as inducing
an increasing dislike to the restrictions and duties that the care of
children will entail. These causes are strong to-day; doubtless they hold
back many women from becoming mothers, but I do not think that they take
us very far to the deeper hidden causes which are also present among us,
nor can they be regarded as essential factors in deciding the question
as to which women should be mothers. There is something acting much more
strongly, a cause which must be sought in the character of woman herself,
and one which, unlike those dependent on outside conditions, cannot, I
think, be altered. You see, I regard the true instinct for motherhood as
a quality directing all expression, something deep-seated in the nature,
and therefore a quality that cannot be added to a character if the woman
does not possess it.
And because I believe this, I regard any effort to force maternity, even
as an ideal, upon all women as a great wrong. We do not expect all men
to desire to be fathers, we must cease to expect all women to desire to
become mothers. For by so doing we cause more evil than we know. And
the hurt is not borne by the mother alone. The child born against the
will of its mother must tend also to be without will; too weak to bear
well the stress and struggle of life. This is no fanciful statement.
I believe it can be proved by any one, with sufficient knowledge, who
takes the trouble to investigate the facts. The child who is born through
the physical mastery of the father and the physical subserviency of its
mother, and against her desire, does pay the penalty in a heritage which
lacks stability and harmony in character.
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