Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
And it is well. We cannot go on as we have done before. We call
motherhood holy, and yet we have sanctioned the sacrifice of mothers,
driving them to crimes, to abortion, to child-murders and to death; we
have sent them into sweated industries; we have turned them out onto the
streets, forcing them to choose between starvation and prostitution. We
have permitted the yearly destruction of tens of thousands of little
children, born into a hard and barren world without the slightest
provision for their physical and mental needs. At the same time, the fact
has been hammered into us of the declining birth-rate. This has gone on
and on, but we have done nothing that the evils may be stopped and life
take the place of unnecessary death.
I cannot understand an attitude which simultaneously condemns the
non-maternal woman, who does not wish to be a mother, accusing her of sin
in shirking the duty of bearing children, and then brands the unmarried
mother to infamy. By the cruelty of our law and the short-sightedness
of our “moral” attitude we have worked to make life a martyrdom for the
unmarried mother, and for the children born out of wedlock, who are
smirched by us with the shame of their illegitimate birth, and thus are
forced downward in the hard struggle of life.
And such foolish and cruel action has all been done in the name of
morality! Let us tear the mask from the lying face of our social
conscience. We need a clean clearance of a moral attitude that really is
profoundly immoral.
Let no one make a mistake. In pleading for these unhonoured mothers and
their children, I am not advocating illegal parentage. There is a sin of
illegitimacy, as presently I shall show. Irresponsible parentage must
always be immoral. It is, however, the parents who behave illegitimately,
not the child, since it can never be the fault of any child that its
parents have brought it into the world. I would wish for every child
that it should be born within the happy safeguards of a true monogamous
marriage. But I cannot close my eyes to the facts of life. I know that we
shall not be able to make it impossible for extra-conjugal procreation to
take place: love-children will be born. And what we, in our curious moral
muddle-headedness, forget is that by penalising the mother we cannot
escape the penalty being paid by the child. Our attitude in the past has
been a reproach to our social intelligence.
I am very far indeed from any desire to lessen parental responsibility.
And if I want the harshness of our law and our moral attitude changed,
it is first of all because I wish to make it possible for unmarried
parents—the father as well as the mother—to give adequate protection to
their child. If they do not do this willingly, I would use the pressure
of the law and a strong public opinion to bring them to their duty. Under
present conditions this can never be done. It is because our harshness
does no good that I condemn it.
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