Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
Now to me all such talk is the visible sign of the deplorable failure in
women’s lives. Feminists tell me that the breaking up of the individual
home with the institutional rearing of children will liberate women.
By this plan of reform they will be free, able to have children and
also to devote themselves to gainful work. They will gain the economic
independence for which they are so loudly crying. Motherhood will be but
a short interruption in the professional or industrial career—mother-care
a superstition of the past.
What can I say to show how misplaced and how mischievous is the outlook
of those who thus turn away from the long experience of the past? It is
not so that the problems of the future can be solved. The past gives
us proof enough that woman’s creation, the home, has been her great
contribution to civilisation. No transitory needs or seeming personal
gains can counterbalance the loss that must come to us as a people
from woman’s neglect of positive duties. There has been neglect under
industrial conditions. Escape was impossible. And in our homes there
has been urgent need for reform. Here I am in agreement with those who
discredit the value of the home. I, too, am certain that our family and
home life, in many directions, have been as bad as they could be. A
radical change is needed, but I hope it will be in the opposite direction
from the plan of institutional upbringing of the children, and the
substitution of the communal dwelling-house for the individual home.
I know well, as every woman must know, that the creating of the right
kind of home is no easy task, but one that demands the continuous
presence of the mother, with an unceasing giving of herself in body and
in soul.
And the trouble is that under industrial ideals of restless discontent
and of pulling down the barriers, the majority of women have become more
and more unfitted for efficient home-making. Of one fact I am certain.
Things cannot go on as before. Here is the reason. The supervision of
the home and the maintenance of any true form of family life is not
compatible with the regular outside occupation of married women. Such a
duplication of a woman’s energies can be undertaken only by her using
for herself and her work the reserve of physical, mental, and spiritual
energy that should be stored and given to her children. To deny this is
foolishness. Are women possessed of inexhaustible stores of energy? Do
the ordinary rules of arithmetic and subtraction not hold good in their
case? It would seem so. For women are maintaining that to divert so large
a proportion of their energies in fresh directions will not involve any
diminution of the strength available for their own affairs. Women are
oddly blind.
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