Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
We have been asking, WHY? like Mr. Ward Fowler’s Wagtail, for a long
time. We asked, Why? about linen underclothing, and behold it is
discarded. We asked Why? about numberless petticoats, and they are
going. We are asking Why? about carpets and easy chairs, and all
manner of luxurious living; and probably the year 1900 will see of
these things only the survivals. It is well we should go about with
this practical Why? rather than with the “Why does a wagtail wag its
tail?” manner of problem. The latter issues in vain guesses, and the
pseudo-knowledge which puffeth up. But if, Why? leads us to--“Because
we should not; then, let us do the thing we should.”--This manner of
Why? is like a poker to a dying fire.
Why is Tom Jones sent to school? That he may be educated, of course,
say his parents. And Tom is dismissed with the fervent hope that he may
take a good place. But never a word about the delights of learning, or
of the glorious worlds of nature and of thought to which his school
studies will presumably prove an open sesame. “Mind you be a good
boy and get a good place in your class,” is Tom’s valediction; and
his little soul quickens with purpose. He won’t disappoint father,
and mother shall be proud of him. He’ll be the top boy in his class.
Why, he’ll be the top boy in the whole school, and get prizes and
things, and won’t that be jolly! Tommy says nothing of this, but his
mother sees it in his eyes and blesses the manly little fellow. So
Tommy goes to school, happy boy, freighted with his father’s hopes and
his mother’s blessings. By-and-by comes a report, the main delight
of which is, that Tommy has gained six places; more places gained,
prizes, removes--by-and-by scholarships. Before he is twelve, Tommy is
able to earn the whole of his future schooling by his skill in that
industry of the young popularly known as _Exams_. Now he aims at larger
game; “exams” still, but “exams” big with possibilities, “exams” which
will carry him through his University career. His success is pretty
certain, because you get into the trick of “exams” as of other crafts.
His parents are congratulated, Tom is more or less of a hero in his
own eyes and in those of his compeers. Examinations for ever! Hip,
hip! Never was a more facile way for a youth to distinguish himself,
that is, if his parents have sent him into the world blessed with any
inheritance of brains. For the boy not so blessed--why, he may go to
the Colonies and that will make a man of him.
The girls come in a close second. The “Junior,” the “Senior,” the
“Higher,” the “Intermediate,” the “B.A.,” and what else you will, mark
the epochs in most girls’ lives. Better, say you, than having no epochs
at all. Unquestionably, yes. But the fact that a successful examination
of one sort or another is the goal towards which most of our young
people are labouring, with feverish haste and with undue anxiety, is
one which possibly calls for the scrutiny of the investigating Why?
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