Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
The teaching of the old days was as bad as it could be, the training
was haphazard work, reckless alike of physiology and psychology; but
our grandfathers and grandmothers had one saving principle, which,
for the last two or three decades, we have been, of set purpose,
labouring to lose. They, of the older generation, recognised children
as reasonable beings, persons of mind and conscience like themselves,
but needing their guidance and control, as having neither knowledge
nor experience. Witness the queer old children’s books which have come
down to us; before all things, these addressed children as reasonable,
intelligent and responsible (terribly responsible!) persons. This
fairly represents the note of home-life in the last generation. So
soon as the baby realised his surroundings, he found himself a morally
and intellectually responsible person. Now one of the secrets of
power in dealing with our fellow beings is, to understand that human
nature does that which it is expected to do and is that which it is
expected to be. We do not mean, _believed_ to do and to be, with the
fond and foolish faith which Mrs. Hardcastle bestowed on her dear Tony
Lumpkin. Expectation strikes another chord, the chord of “_I am, I can,
I ought_,” which must vibrate in every human breast, for, “’tis our
nature to.” The capable, dependable men and women whom we all know were
reared upon this principle.
But now? Now, many children in many homes are still brought up on the
old lines, but not with quite the unfaltering certitude of the old
times. Other thoughts are in the air. A baby is a huge oyster (says
one eminent psychologist) whose business is to feed, and to sleep,
and to grow. Even Professor Sully, in his most delightful book,[19]
is torn in two. The children have conquered him, have convinced him
beyond doubt that they are as ourselves, only more so. But then he is
an evolutionist, and feels himself pledged to accommodate the child to
the principles of evolution. Therefore, the little person is supposed
to go through a thousand stages of moral and intellectual development,
leading him from the condition of the savage or ape to that of
the intelligent and cultivated human being. If children will not
accommodate themselves pleasantly to this theory, why, that is their
fault, and Professor Sully is too true a child-lover not to give us the
children as they are, with little interludes of the theory upon which
they ought to evolve. Now we have absolutely no theory to advance,
and are, on scientific grounds, disposed to accept the theories of
the evolutionary psychologists. But facts are too strong for us. When
we consider the enormous intellectual labour the infant goes through
during his first year in accommodating himself to the conditions of a
new world, in learning to discern between far and near, solid and flat,
large and small, and a thousand other qualifications and limitations
of this perplexing world, why, we are not surprised that John Stuart
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