Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
“Quite over, he was as good as gold.”
“Well, the thing we settled on was to _avert_ a threatened outbreak
by a pleasant change of thought; and to do so in order that, at last,
the _habit_ of these outbreaks may be broken. Don’t you see, that is a
very different thing from pampering him with a pleasant day when he has
already pampered himself with the full indulgence of his passion?”
“Pampered himself! Why, you surely don’t think those terrible scenes
give the poor child any pleasure. I always thought he was a deal more
to be pitied than we.”
“Indeed I do. Pleasure is perhaps hardly the word; but that the display
of temper is a form of self indulgence, there is no doubt at all. You,
my dear, are too amiable to know what a relief it is to us irritable
people to have a good storm and clear the air.”
“Nonsense, Edward! But what should I have done? What is the best course
_after_ the child has given way?”
“I think we must, as you suggested before, consider how we ourselves
are governed. Estrangement, isolation, are the immediate consequences
of sin, even of what may seem a small sin of harshness and selfishness.”
“Oh, but don’t you think that is our delusion? that God is loving us
all the time, and it is _we_ who estrange ourselves?”
“Without doubt; and we are aware of the love all the time, but, also,
we are aware of a cloud between us and it; we know we are out of
favour. We know, too, there is only one way back, through the fire.
It is common to speak of repentance as a light thing, rather pleasant
than otherwise; but it is searching and bitter: so much so, that the
Christian soul dreads to sin, even the sin of coldness, from an almost
cowardly dread of the anguish of repentance, purging fire though it is.”
Mrs. Belmont could not clear her throat to answer for a minute. She
had never before had such a glimpse into her husband’s soul. Here were
deeper things in the spiritual life than any of which she yet knew.
“Well then, dear, about Guy; must he feel this estrangement, go through
this fire?”
“I think so, in his small degree; but he must never doubt our love.
He must see and feel that it is always there, though under a cloud of
sorrow which he only can break through.”
* * * * *
Guy’s lapse prepared the way for further lapses. Not two days passed
before he was again _hors de combat_. The boy, his outbreak over, was
ready at once to emerge into the sunshine. Not so his mother. His most
bewitching arts met only with sad looks and silence.
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