Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
It is very strange how a moral weakness in her child gives a mother the
same sense of yearning pity that she has for a bad bodily infirmity. I
wonder if that is how God feels for us when we go on year by year doing
the thing we hate? I think a mother gets to understand many things
about the dealings of God that are not plain to others. For instance,
how it helps me to say, “I believe in the forgiveness of sins,” when I
think of my poor little Fanny’s ugly fault. Though there is some return
of it nearly every day, what could I do but forgive?
But forgiveness that does not heal is like the wretched ointments with
which poor people dress their wounds. In one thing I know I have not
done well; I have hardly said a word to John about the poor little
girlie’s failing, though it has troubled me constantly for nearly a
year. But I think he suspects there is something wrong; we never talk
quite freely about our shy pretty Fanny. Perhaps that is one reason for
it. She is such a nervous timid little being, and looks so bewitching
when the long lashes droop, the tender mouth quivers, and the colour
comes and goes in the soft cheek, that we are shy of exposing, even
to each other, the faults we see in our graceful fragile little girl.
Perhaps neither of us quite trusts the other to deal with Fanny, and to
use the knife sparingly.
But this state of things must not go on: it is a miserable thing to
write down, but I cannot believe a word the child says! And the evil
is increasing. Only now and then used Fanny to be detected in what we
called a fib, but now the terrible doubt lest that little mouth may be
at any moment uttering lies takes the delight out of life, and accounts
for the pale looks which give my kind husband so much concern.
For example, only within the last day or two I have noticed the
following and other such examples:--
“Fanny, did you remember to give my message to cook?”
“Yes, mother.”
“And what did she say?”
“That she wouldn’t be able to make any jam to-day because the fruit had
not come.”
I went into the kitchen shortly after, and found cook stirring the
contents of a brass pan, and, sad to say, I asked no questions. It was
one of Fanny’s circumstantial statements of the kind I have had most
reason to doubt. Did she lie because she was afraid to own that she
had forgotten? Hardly so: knowing the child’s sensitive nature, we
have always been careful not to visit her small misdemeanours with any
punishment whenever she “owned up.” And then, cowardice would hardly
cause her to invent so reasonable an answer for cook. Again:
“Did you meet Mrs. Fleming’s children?”
“Oh, yes, mother! and Berty was so rude! He pushed Dotty off the
curb-stone!”
Nurse, who was sitting by the fire with baby, raised her eyebrows in
surprise, and I saw the whole thing was an invention. Another more
extraordinary instance:
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