Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
Let the month of treatment be a deliciously happy month to him, he
living all the time in the sunshine of his mother’s smile. Let him not
be left to himself to meditate or carry out ugly pranks. Let him feel
himself always under a watchful, loving, and _approving eye_. Keep him
happily occupied, well amused. All this, to break the old custom which
is assuredly broken when a certain length of time goes by without its
repetition. But one habit drives out another. Lay new lines in the old
place. Open avenues of kindness for him. Let him enjoy, daily, hourly,
the pleasure of pleasing. Get him into the way of making little plots
for the pleasure of the rest--a plaything of his contriving, a dish of
strawberries of his gathering, shadow rabbits to amuse the baby; take
him on kind errands to poor neighbours, carrying and giving of his own.
For a whole month the child’s whole heart is flowing out in deeds and
schemes and thoughts of loving-kindness, and the ingenuity which spent
itself in malicious tricks becomes an acquisition to his family when
his devices are benevolent. Yes; but where is his mother to get time in
these encroaching days to put Henry under special treatment? She has
other children and other duties, and simply cannot give herself up for
a month or a week to one child. If the boy were ill, in danger, would
she find time for him then? Would not other duties go to the wall, and
leave her little son, for the time, her chief object in life? Now here
is a point all parents are not enough awake to--that mental and moral
ailments require prompt, purposeful, curative treatment, to which the
parents must devote themselves for a short time, just as they would
to a sick child. Neither punishing him nor letting him alone--the two
lines of treatment most in favour--ever cured a child of any moral
evil. If parents recognised the efficacy and the immediate effect of
treatment, they would never allow the spread of ill weeds. For let this
be borne in mind, whatever ugly quality disfigures the child, he is
but as a garden overgrown with weeds, the more prolific the weeds, the
more fertile the soil; he has within him every possibility of beauty of
life and character. Get rid of the weeds and foster the flowers. It is
hardly too much to say that most of the failures in life or character
made by man or woman are due to the happy-go-lucky philosophy of the
parents. They say, “The child is so young; he does not know any better;
but all that will come right as he grows up.” Now, a fault of character
left to itself can do no other than strengthen.
An objection may be raised to this counsel of short and determined
curative treatment. The good results do not last, it is said; a week
or two of neglect, and you lose the ground gained: Henry is as likely
as ever to grow up of the “tiger” order, a Steerforth or a Grandcourt.
Here science comes to help us to cheerful certainty.
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