Plutarch's essays and miscellanies, Vol. 2 (of 5) : $b Comprising all his works collected under the title of "Morals"Plutarch
Philosophy
Plutarch's essays and miscellanies, Vol. 2 (of 5) : $b Comprising all his works collected under the title of "Morals"
Plutarch
Classical literature; Essays; Ethics; Philosophy
as Euripides speaks; but friendship extends itself to both fortunes, as
well brightens and adorns prosperity as allays the sorrows that attend
adversity. And as Evenus used to say that fire makes the best sauce,
so friendship, wherewith God has seasoned the circumstances of our
mortality, gives a relish to every condition, renders them all easy,
sweet, and agreeable enough. And indeed, did not the laws of friendship
admit of a little pleasantry and good humor, why should the parasite
insinuate himself under that disguise? And yet he, as counterfeit gold
imitates the brightness and lustre of the true, always puts on the
easiness and freedom of a friend, is always pleasant and obliging, and
ready to comply with the humor of his company. And therefore it is
no way reasonable either, to look upon every just character that is
given us as a piece of flattery; for certainly a due and seasonable
commendation is as much the duty of one friend to another as a
pertinent and serious reprehension; nay indeed, a sour querulous temper
is perfectly repugnant to the laws of friendship and conversation;
whereas a man takes a chiding patiently from a friend who is as ready
to praise his virtues as to animadvert upon his vices, willingly
persuading himself that mere necessity obliged him to reprimand, whom
kindness had first moved to commend.
3. Why then, some may say, it is infinitely difficult at this rate
to distinguish a flatterer from a friend, since there is no apparent
difference either betwixt the satisfaction they create or the praises
they bestow. Nay, it is observable, that a parasite is frequently
more obsequious and obliging than a friend himself. Well, the way
then to discover the disparity? Why, I will tell you; if you would
learn the character of a true subtle flatterer, who nicks his point
_secundum artem_, you must not, with the vulgar, mistake those
sordid smell-feasts and poor trencher-slaves for your men, who begin to
prate as soon as they have washed their hands in order to dinner, as
one says of them, and ere they are well warmed with a good cut of the
first dish and a glass of wine, betray the narrow soul that acts them
by the nauseous and fulsome buffoonery they vent at table. For sure
it needed no great sagacity to detect the flattery of Melanthius, the
parasite of Alexander of Pherae, who, being asked how his master was
murdered, made answer, With a thrust which went in at his side, but
into my belly. Nor must we, again, confine our notions of flatterers to
those sharping fellows who ply about rich men’s tables, whom neither
fire nor sword nor porter can keep from supper; nor yet to such as were
those female parasites of Cyprus, who going into Syria were nick-named
Steps, because they cringed so to the great ladies of that country that
they mounted their chariots on their backs.
4. Well, but after all, who is this flatterer then, whom we ought so
industriously to avoid?
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