Plutarch's essays and miscellanies, Vol. 2 (of 5) : $b Comprising all his works collected under the title of "Morals"Plutarch
Philosophy
Plutarch's essays and miscellanies, Vol. 2 (of 5) : $b Comprising all his works collected under the title of "Morals"
Plutarch
Classical literature; Essays; Ethics; Philosophy
In the next place, the parasite observes that all true friendship takes
its origin from a concurrence of like humors and inclinations, and that
the same passions, the same aversions and desires, are the first cement
of a true and lasting friendship. He therefore composes his nature,
like unformed matter, striving to fit and adapt it by imitation to the
person on whom he designs, that it may be pliant and yielding to any
impression that he shall think fit to stamp upon it; and, in fine, he
so neatly resembles the original, that one would swear,—
Sure thou the very Achilles art, and not his son.
But the most exquisite fineness of a flatterer consists in his
imitation of that freedom of discourse which friends particularly use
in mutually reprehending each other. For finding that men usually
take it for what it really is, the natural language of friendship, as
peculiar to it as certain notes or voices are to certain animals, and
that, on the contrary, a shy sheepish reservedness looks both rude and
unfriendly, he lets not even this proper character of a friend escape
his imitation. But as skilful cooks use to correct luscious meats with
sharp and poignant sauce, that they may not be so apt to overcharge
the stomach; so he seasons his flattery now and then with a little
smartness and severity, lest the fulsomeness of repeated dissimulation
should pall and cloy the company. And yet his reprehensions always
carry something in them that looks not true and genuine; he seems to
do it, but with a kind of a sneering and grinning countenance at the
best; and though his reproofs may possibly tickle the ear, yet they
never strike effectually upon the heart. On these accounts then it is
as difficult to discern a flatterer from a friend, as to know those
animals again which always wear the livery of the last thing they touch
upon. And therefore, since he puts so easily upon us under the disguise
and appearance of a friend, it will be our business at present to
unmask the hypocrite, and show him in other men’s shapes and colors, as
Plato speaks, since he has none properly his own.
6. Well then, let us enquire regularly into this affair. We have
already asserted, that friendship generally takes its rise from a
conformity of tempers and dispositions, whereby different persons come
to have the same taste of the like humors, customs, studies, exercises,
and employs, as these following verses import:—
Old men with old, and boys with boys agree;
And women’s clack with women’s company.
Men that are crazy, full of sores and pain,
Love to diseased persons to complain.
And they who labor under adverse fate,
Tell their sad stories to th’ unfortunate.
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