Any one who has seen, for instance, Mexican women barely interrupting
their labor in the fields to give birth to a child, and resuming their
tasks an hour later, must realise that autosuggestion has much to do
with the physical disability of the civilised woman in child bed.
In spite of the complexities of modern life, the female organism which
is not affected by fear complexes, must expect a pleasure premium from
pregnancy, lactation and other duties of motherhood. This would supply
us with an organic basis for the mother's attachment to her offspring
which is observable almost in every animal species.
That a number of women may be found who hate their children owing to
the suffering to which unwelcome motherhood and difficult parturition
have subjected them, is easily understandable. In fact we face a
vicious circle. The unwelcome pregnancy will be an unpleasant one,
followed almost unavoidably by painful delivery, etc.
=When Mother Love is Lacking= or when a mother hates a very young
child, the psychologist must look for morbid unconscious influences
which analysis should remove as soon as possible.
Stekel, the Viennese analyst, tells of a woman who was very fond of
three of her daughters but, for some mysterious reason, detested the
fourth one. Analysis revealed that she imagined she saw every one of
her husband's faults reproduced and magnified in the unfortunate child.
She also imagined that she loved her husband very deeply.
The year when the unloved child was conceived, however, she had fallen
in love with another man, a young poet. She remained "technically
faithful" to her husband, altho, when in his arms, it was always the
poet to whom she was giving herself.
She hoped sentimentally that the forthcoming child would look like
her platonic lover but the little girl reproduced with striking
faithfulness her father's features.
Unwilling to accept her dislike of her husband, the romantic mother had
transferred it to the child who served as a scapegoat in various ways.
=Frigid Wives.= We often observe a great craving for motherhood in
frigid wives.
Let us not rehash on this occasion the poetical and silly statement
that the frigid woman is one whose love has been spiritualised and can
only find an outlet thru her children.
The frigid woman is a cripple or a neurotic. Either she was born with
poorly developed genitals or she was made abnormal by the unconscious
fear of yielding to man's domination, or by a morbid sense of sin due
to asceticism, or by painful or humiliating sex experiences before or
after marriage.
Her craving for motherhood is not infrequently the hypocritical
expression of her desire for intercourse, which her puritan training
would otherwise make lewd and sinful. It is, at times, a desire for
the superiority which age and bodily size will give her over infants,
helpless and inarticulate.
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