This is not due to any especially feminine trait but rather to the
difficulties which women encounter when they endeavor to secure
positive information on tabooed sexual topics. They expect, therefore,
their initiators to be conversant with the subject which is kept
carefully shrouded in morbid mystery.
The majority of men, on the other hand, when marrying a woman who is
neither a widow nor a divorcée, expect her to be absolutely pure, that
is, not to have had any sexual relations with any other man.
=Ethical Prostitution.= In certain parts of the world, on the other
hand, males appear rather indifferent to the female's past. In some
parts of Japan and among certain Arab tribes, comely girls may go to
larger centers of the population and devote themselves for a period
of years to prostitution. After which, they return to their native
place sometimes with a dowry they have accumulated thriftily, find a
husband and settle down as wives and mothers, in no way disqualified
by their promiscuous past. In certain parts of Central Europe, "window
courting," as it is sometimes called, leads to unofficial trial
marriages which do not arouse the jealousy of the final winner of a
girl's favours.
Among the Western nations, it is rather the very young, the stupidly
conservative, the unsophisticated and the senile, who consider
virginity as a great attraction and in some cases as a powerful sexual
stimulant.
The reasons for that are to be sought in the egotistical component of
the masculine attitude. The strong and powerful male who has frequently
proved his virility is not obsessed by the fear of defeat in love's
intimacies.
The innocent young man, on the other hand, who is full of misgivings
and of diffidence, the elderly man whose sexual powers are on the wane
and who is no longer sure of himself, prefer a woman who is totally
ignorant of physical love. Their embarrassment or their shortcomings
may escape a virgin but would not escape a woman of the world, a widow
or a divorcée.
There is, therefore, in the search for virginity, a slightly neurotic
factor, the fear of defeat, the line of least effort, the search for
ego safety.
It must be noticed that it was during the great neurotic ages, the
Middle Ages, which witnessed the bursting forth of so many hysterical
epidemics, that both the cult of the Virgin and the belief in witches
spread over Europe.
=The Fear of Woman.= Man has always tried to protect himself against
woman. In his fear of sex equality he has either made her an angel or
a beast. The witch, perverse and filthy, was lowered to the level of
hell. The virgin, on the other hand, unsexed and raised to heaven, was
removed far enough from the world for perfect safety.
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