This sort of prurient modesty which, very often, exerts a baneful
influence on the love-life of the individual, is usually due to
repressed childhood memories and complexes.
=Fear of Love.= Stekel, of Vienna, cites the case of a girl who evinced
on every occasion a morbid fear of everything connected with love. She
avoided men, she protected herself zealously against every "suggestive"
influence, she decried love and marriage and was constantly trying to
"spiritualise" the things of the flesh which she considered "bestial."
Analysis showed that until the age of thirteen she had been perfectly
normal in her behavior, considering love and marriage as natural human
goals.
One day, however, she chanced upon a collection of pornographic
photographs belonging to her father. Instead of "corrupting" her mind,
the incident disgusted her and caused her to renounce all the things of
the flesh and to become unusually, negatively modest.
A patient of mine declared on the occasion of her first call at my
office that all men were "beasts." Whenever she associated with a
man, at dinner, theater or dancing parties, she suffered from choking
sensations, nausea, etc. Analysis revealed that at the age of six she
had been subjected to an attempt at seduction.
Another woman patient who went thru a mental crisis in the course of
which she gave up all worldly pleasures and decided never to marry,
merging into hysterical states very soon afterward, had bow legs and
a tendency to skin eruptions which had, on many occasions, proved
humiliating to her egotism. Her decision never to marry meant: "I shall
not risk showing my deformed legs and my skin blemishes to a man."
Also, at the age of ten, she had witnessed a scene of brutality in
which a man had dragged his wife on the street by her hair.
She was morbidly modest and wept bitterly once when a man whom she knew
only slightly, pressed a kiss upon her lips. Withal her dreams revealed
a violently erotic temperament.
Like all exaggerated feelings morbid modesty is the mask for the
opposite feelings, passionate sexual cravings. The woman who allows
every one to kiss her is aroused but little by such caresses. The woman
who never kisses any one and pretends she does not like being kissed,
is usually the one who knows that a kiss might cause her to lose her
self-control and to abandon all modesty.
The puritanical male, paragon of modesty among his sex, is either an
inflammable type who is afraid of his own sensuality or an impotent
individual who protects himself against being put to any sexual test.
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