There are thousands of husbands who would not dare to find out whether
their wives are untrue or not. Some may be so enslaved to their wives'
bodies that they cannot contemplate the possibility of losing them.
Public opinion, if a scandal should break out, would compel them to
seek a divorce and therefore they prefer to remain in ignorance of the
real state of affairs and of their "defeat."
Others are so egotistical that they refuse to suspect their wives of
infidelity and are honestly trying to protect their wife's reputation
when they make a jealous scene. This is frequently observed among the
"after-me-who-has-a-chance?" type of husband.
Other egotists fear the ridicule that might follow upon exposure and
which might destroy some of their self confidence. They would be too
weak to bear up well under their friends' open or concealed sarcasm.
The jealous scenes they make to their suspected wives are in the nature
of a punishment which they inflict on the faithless one.
Other husbands, entangled in extramatrimonial affairs, are in no way
desirous to create a scandal but work themselves into jealous moods to
keep up a pretence of interest in their wives.
Others, very old fashioned, believe in a double standard and, while
condoning their own weaknesses, condemn every appearance of evil in
"their" wives.
=Very Few Men or Women Admit Their Jealousy.= Most of them cover it
with ethical veils of the most transparent type: "You neglect your
household," "you are a poor mother (or father) to your children," "you
are making yourself (or me) ridiculous," etc.
Some husbands deny they are jealous but declaim against low neck gowns,
flesh-colored stockings, face powder, rouge, lip sticks to which they
object on "moral grounds."
The last two groups derive a great comfort from their assumed ethical
and moral superiority which they use as a justification for their
endless nagging.
Some jealous husbands force motherhood upon their wives year after year
as a protection against unfaithfulness. A woman disabled by pregnancy
and lactation is, of necessity, more faithful. Attempts at freedom on
the part of a woman burdened with a numerous progeny can easily be
repressed by admonitions such as "Remember the children," etc.
=Jealousy and Impotence.= Jealousy in a man is often caused
by the fact that he has become impotent. Unable to gratify his
wife physically, he imagines that she seeks consolation elsewhere
and in that way he "gets even" with her: "I am impotent but she is
promiscuous," so runs the neurotic's logic.
Not infrequently a woman who has been brought up to consider physical
relations as slightly shameful and something which a well brought up
female submits to, but never "enjoys," may, if she is very erotic,
develop terrible fits of jealousy.
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