Oscar Wilde, a bisexual, stated once that of all the masculine traits
it was cruelty which women appreciated most. To his morbid mind cruelty
meant power. It is power of course which woman, disabled several times
in her life by pregnancy and lactation, seeks in the man with whom she
mates. He must be a good fighter and a good hunter, not, however,
merely to capture her and brutalise her, but on the contrary, to
protect her and feed her.
The sadist Kurnberger in his novel, "The Castle of Horrors" also bids
us believe that man's greatest victory, appreciated as such by woman,
consists in making a woman suffer, in bringing tears to her eyes, in
outtalking and outwitting her, "a victory compared to which," he says,
"Marengo and Austerlitz look like thirty cents."
And the sadistic Nietzsche puts in the mouth of an old woman in his
"Zarathustra" the following statement: "when you go to women, don't
forget to take your whip."
Other sadists remind us of the Russian woman's wail that her husband's
love must be cooling off, because he hasn't beaten her in an age.
Barring a number of exceptions, the fact remains that masochism in
women is as abnormal as masochism in men, or sadism in men or women.
=Women Who Enjoy a Beating.= There are women who enjoy unconsciously
being beaten by their husbands, much as they may resent the outrage
consciously.
They are in every case hypothyroid and hypoadrenal types in whom the
distribution of energy and the emergency production of energy are very
subnormal. Nothing but a violent stimulus, physical or mental, whipping
or insult, can make them feel strong and active.
The dreams of those women, like those of masochistic men, are often of
the nightmarish type. They suffer in their night visions all sorts of
torture. Analysis brings out the fact that every detail of those dreams
is associated with energy, achievement, etc.
De Sade's wife belonged evidently to the masochistic type. She remained
faithful to him to the end in spite of his perverse life, his prison
record and the fact that he deceived her with her own sister. Her life
of sorrow must have vouchsafed her, after all, a good many masochistic
compensations of the neurotic variety.
=Famous Women Sadists.= As against the assumption that "all" women
are masochists, we may mention many famous women sadists, several
Byzantine and Roman Empresses, Frankish queens, two Russian empresses,
the treatment meted out by women to Theroigne de Méricourt, tortured
publicly by the Jacobine women in 1793, not to mention legendary
characters like the Amazons and mythological goddesses who killed or
tortured their lovers.
Sadism and masochism in love are pathological disturbances due to a
neurotic attempt on the part of an inferior individual to dominate the
sexual partner thru violence or weakness, and to assure himself against
defeat in the sexual relationship.
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