This leads us to the one topic to which perhaps more naïve psychology
has been devoted than to any other psychological problem, the mental
difference between men and women. Volumes could be filled, and I
think volumes have been filled, with quotations about this eternal
source of happiness and grief. But if we look into those hundreds of
thousands of crisp sayings and wise maxims, we find in the material of
modern times just what we recognized in the wisdom of India. Almost
all is metaphor and comparison, or is practical advice and warning, or
is enthusiastic praise, or is maliciousness, but among a hundred
hardly one contains psychology. And if we really bring together such
psychologizing observations, we should hardly dare to acknowledge that
they deserve that right of generality by merit of which they might be
welcomed to our psychological system. Bruyere insists: “Women are
extreme; they are better or worse than men”; and the same idea is
formulated by Kotzebue: “When women are good they stand between men
and angels; when they are bad, they stand between men and devils.”
Rousseau remarks: “Woman has more esprit, and man more genius; the
woman observes, and the man reasons.” Jean Paul expresses the contrast
in this way: “No woman can love her child and the four quarters of the
globe at the same time, but a man can do it.” Grabbe thinks: “Man
looks widely, woman deeply; for man the world is the heart, for woman
the heart is the world.” Schiller claims: “Women constantly return to
their first word, even if reason has spoken for hours.” Karl Julius
Weber, to whom German literature has to credit not a few psychological
observations, says: “Women are greater in misfortune than men on
account of the chief female virtue, patience, but they are smaller in
good fortune than men, on account of the chief female fault, vanity.”
Yet as to patience, a German writer of the seventeenth century,
Christoph Lehmann, says: “Obedience and patience do not like to grow
in the garden of the women.” But I am anxious to close with a more
polite German observation. Seume holds: “I cannot decide whether the
women have as much reason as the men, but I am perfectly sure that
they have not so much unreason.” And yet: “How hard it is for women to
keep counsel,” and how many writers since Shakespeare have said this
in their own words.
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