Religious Reality: A Book for MenRawlinson, A. E. J. (Alfred Edward John)
Religion
Religious Reality: A Book for Men
Rawlinson, A. E. J. (Alfred Edward John)
Theology, Doctrinal -- Popular works
The Church regards Christian marriage as indissoluble. In cases of
adultery she counsels reconciliation, wherever possible, upon the
basis of repentance on the part of the guilty and forgiveness on the
part of the injured partner. If this is not possible the Church
sanctions, if need so require, separation, but not remarriage. There
are also unfortunately other cases in which the married relationship
proves so intolerable as to render a temporary or permanent separation
admissible as a last resort. The remarriage of either party during the
lifetime of the other is nevertheless held to be unchristian. With the
practical difficulties which beset the Church in the attempt to
maintain within the circle of her own membership a stricter standard
than that which is recognized by the Civil Law and by society at large
we are not here concerned. Our concern is with the Christian standard
as a positive ideal, on the effective maintenance of which, as
Christians believe, depends the stability of the home and the
Christian family, and the redemption of sex-relations from mere
animalism and grossness.
A Christian husband takes his wife in matrimony "for better for worse,
for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to
cherish, till death them do part, according to GOD'S holy ordinance."
The step is irrevocable. The union is intended to be life-long. It
has, moreover, in view not only "the mutual society, help, and comfort
that the one ought to have of the other," but also "the procreation of
children, to be brought up in the fear and nurture of the Lord, and to
the praise of His holy Name." A few words may usefully be said under
these heads.
(i) Marriage ought to be based upon love; and love, though naturally
and normally involving the element of sexual attraction, ought to
include also other and deeper elements. A Christian man who has lived
a clean and disciplined life ought to be sufficiently master of his
passions to avoid mistaking a merely temporary infatuation for such a
genuine spiritual affinity as will survive the satisfaction of
immediate desires and prove the stable basis of a life-companionship.
Hasty marriages are a common and avoidable cause of subsequent
unhappiness. It is obviously undesirable that couples should enter
upon matrimony until there has been a sufficiently prolonged and
intimate acquaintance to enable them to become reasonably sure both of
themselves and of one another. In many cases there is much to be said
for regarding betrothals in the first instance as provisional. It is
better to break them off at the last moment than to marry the wrong
person.
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