Searchlights on Health: Light on Dark Corners: A Complete Sexual Science and a Guide to Purity and Physical Manhood, Advice To Maiden, Wife, And Mother, Love, Courtship, And MarriageJefferis, B. G. (Benjamin Grant)
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Searchlights on Health: Light on Dark Corners: A Complete Sexual Science and a Guide to Purity and Physical Manhood, Advice To Maiden, Wife, And Mother, Love, Courtship, And Marriage
Jefferis, B. G. (Benjamin Grant)
Marriage; Medicine, Popular; Sexual ethics
8. PRACTICE ECONOMY.--Many families are cast out of peace into grumbling
and discord by being compelled to fight against poverty. When there are no
great distresses to be endured or accounted for, complaint and
fault-finding are not so often evoked. Keep your husband free from the
annoyance of disappointed creditors, and he will be more apt to keep free
from annoying you. To toil hard for bread, to fight the wolf from the door,
to resist impatient creditors, to struggle against complaining pride at
home, is too much to ask of one man. A crust that is your own is a feast,
while a feast that is purloined from unwilling creditors is a famine.
* * * * *
How to Be a Good Husband.
1. SHOW YOUR LOVE.--All life manifests itself. As certainly as a live tree
will put forth leaves in the spring, so certainly will a living love show
itself. Many a noble man toils early and late to earn bread and position
for his wife. He hesitates at no weariness for her sake. He justly thinks
that such industry and providence give a better expression of his love than
he could by caressing her and letting the grocery bills go unpaid. He fills
the cellar and pantry. He drives and pushes his business. He never dreams
that he is actually starving his wife to death. He may soon have a woman
left to superintend his home, but his wife is dying. She must be kept alive
by the same process that called her into being. Recall and repeat the
little attentions and delicate compliments that once made you so agreeable,
and that fanned her love into a consuming flame. It is not beneath the
dignity of the skillful physician to study all the {214} little symptoms,
and order all the little round of attentions that check the waste of
strength and brace the staggering constitution. It is good work for a
husband to cherish his wife.
[Illustration: TALKING AFTER MARRIAGE.]
2. CONSULT WITH YOUR WIFE.--She is apt to be as right as you are, and
frequently able to add much to your stock of wisdom. In any event she
appreciates your attentions.
3. STUDY TO KEEP HER YOUNG.--It can be done. It is not work, but worry,
that wears. Keep a brave, true heart between her and all harm.
4. HELP TO BEAR HER BURDENS.--Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill
the law of love. Love seeks opportunities to do for the loved object. She
has the constant care of your children. She is ordained by the Lord to
stand guard over them. Not a disease can appear in the community without
her taking the alarm. Not a disease can come over the threshold without her
instantly springing into the mortal combat. If there is a deficiency
anywhere, it comes out of her pleasure. Her burdens are everywhere. Look
for them, that you may lighten them.
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