Searchlights on Health: Light on Dark Corners: A Complete Sexual Science and a Guide to Purity and Physical Manhood, Advice To Maiden, Wife, And Mother, Love, Courtship, And MarriageJefferis, B. G. (Benjamin Grant)
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Searchlights on Health: Light on Dark Corners: A Complete Sexual Science and a Guide to Purity and Physical Manhood, Advice To Maiden, Wife, And Mother, Love, Courtship, And Marriage
Jefferis, B. G. (Benjamin Grant)
Marriage; Medicine, Popular; Sexual ethics
8. WOMAN IS EVER PROUD, and justly so, of the manly passion of her husband,
when she knows it is controlled by a love for her, whose manifestations
have regard only to her elevation and happiness. The power which, when bent
only on selfish indulgence, becomes a source of more shame, degradation,
disease and wretchedness, to {262} women and to children than all other
things put together, does but ennoble her, add grace and glory to her
being, and concentrate and vitalize the love that encircles her as a wife
when it is controlled by wisdom and consecrated to her highest growth and
happiness, and that of her children. It lends enchantment to her person,
and gives a fascination to her smiles, her words and her caresses, which
ever breathe of purity and of heaven, and make her all lovely as a wife and
mother to her husband and the father of her child. _Manly passion is to the
conjugal love of the wife like the sun to the rose-bud, that opens its
petals, and causes them to give out their sweetest fragrance and to display
their most delicate tints; or like the frost, which chills and kills it ere
it blossoms in its richness and beauty._
9. A DIADEM OF BEAUTY.--Maternity, when it exists at the call of the wife,
and is gratefully received, but binds her heart more tenderly and devotedly
to her husband. As the father of her child, he stands before her invested
with new beauty and dignity. In receiving from him the germ of a new life,
she receives that which she feels is to add new beauty and glory to her as
a woman--a new grace and attraction to her as a wife. She loves and honors
him, because he has crowned her with the glory of a mother. Maternity, to
her, instead of being repulsive, is a diadem of beauty, a crown of
rejoicing; and deep, tender, and self-forgetting are her love and reverence
for him who has placed it on her brow. How noble, how august, how beautiful
is maternity when thus bestowed and received!
10. CONCLUSION.--Would you, then, secure the love and trust of your wife,
and become an object of her ever-growing tenderness and reverence? Assure
her, by all your manifestations, and your perfect respect for the functions
of her nature, that your passion shall be in subjection of her wishes. It
is not enough that you have secured in her heart respect for your spiritual
and intellectual manhood. To maintain your self-respect in your relations
with her, to perfect your growth and happiness as a husband, you must cause
your _physical_ nature to be tenderly cherished and reverenced by her in
all the sacred intimacies of home. No matter how much she reverences your
intellectual or your social power, if by reason of your uncalled-for
passional manifestations you have made your physical manhood disagreeable,
how can you, in her presence, preserve a sense of manly pride and dignity
as a husband?
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Heredity and the Transmission of Diseases.
[Illustration: HEALTH AND DISEASE.]
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