Searchlights on Health: Light on Dark Corners: A Complete Sexual Science and a Guide to Purity and Physical Manhood, Advice To Maiden, Wife, And Mother, Love, Courtship, And MarriageJefferis, B. G. (Benjamin Grant)
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Searchlights on Health: Light on Dark Corners: A Complete Sexual Science and a Guide to Purity and Physical Manhood, Advice To Maiden, Wife, And Mother, Love, Courtship, And Marriage
Jefferis, B. G. (Benjamin Grant)
Marriage; Medicine, Popular; Sexual ethics
8. EVERY GIRL SHOULD SEAL HER HEART against all manifested affections,
unless they are accompanied by a proposal. Woman's love is her all, and her
heart should be as flint until she finds one who is worthy of her
confidence. Young woman, never bestow your affections until by some word or
deed at least you are fully justified in recognizing sincerity and faith in
him who is paying you special attention. Better not be engaged until
twenty-two. You are {168} then more competent to judge the honesty and
falsity of man. Nature has thrown a wall of maidenly modesty around you.
Preserve that and not let your affections be trifled with while too young
by any youthful flirt who is in search of hearts to conquer.
9. FEMALE FLIRTATION.--The young man who loves a young woman has paid her
the highest compliment in the possession of man. Perpetrate almost any sin,
inflict any other torture, but spare him the agony of disappointment. It is
a crime that can never be forgiven, and a debt that never can be paid.
10. LOYALTY.--Young persons with serious intentions, or those who are
engaged should be thoroughly loyal to each other. If they seek freedom with
others the flame of jealousy is likely to be kindled and love is often
turned to hatred, and the severest anger of the soul is aroused. Loyalty,
faithfulness, confidence, are the three jewels to be cherished in
courtship. Don't be a flirt.
11. KISSING, FONDLING, AND CARESSING BETWEEN LOVERS.--This should never be
tolerated under any circumstances, unless there is an engagement to justify
it, and then only in a sensible and limited way. The girl who allows a
young man the privilege of kissing her or putting his arms around her waist
before engagement will at once fall in the estimation of the man she has
thus gratified and desired to please. Privileges always injure, but never
benefit.
[Illustration: SAYING "NO" WHEN MEANING "YES."]
12. IMPROPER LIBERTIES DURING COURTSHIP KILL LOVE.--Any improper liberties
which are permitted by young ladies, whether engaged or not, will change
love into sensuality, and her affections will become obnoxious, if not
repellent. Men by nature love virtue, and for a life companion naturally
shun an amorous woman. Young folks, as you love moral purity and virtue,
never reciprocate love until you have required the right of betrothal.
Remember that those who are thoroughly in love will respect the honor and
virtue of each other. The purity of woman is doubly attractive, and
sensuality in her becomes doubly offensive and repellent. It is contrary to
the laws of nature for a man to love a harlot.
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