Self Help; with Illustrations of Conduct and PerseveranceSmiles, Samuel
Philosophy
Self Help; with Illustrations of Conduct and Perseverance
Smiles, Samuel
Conduct of life
It is indeed scarcely possible to over-estimate the importance of
training the young to virtuous habits. In them they are the easiest
formed, and when formed they last for life; like letters cut on the bark
of a tree they grow and widen with age. “Train up a child in the way he
should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” The beginning
holds within it the end; the first start on the road of life determines
the direction and the destination of the journey; _ce n’est que le
premier pas qui coûte_. “Remember,” said Lord Collingwood to a young man
whom he loved, “before you are five-and-twenty you must establish a
character that will serve you all your life.” As habit strengthens with
age, and character becomes formed, any turning into a new path becomes
more and more difficult. Hence, it is often harder to unlearn than to
learn; and for this reason the Grecian flute-player was justified who
charged double fees to those pupils who had been taught by an inferior
master. To uproot an old habit is sometimes a more painful thing, and
vastly more difficult, than to wrench out a tooth. Try and reform a
habitually indolent, or improvident, or drunken person, and in a large
majority of cases you will fail. For the habit in each case has wound
itself in and through the life until it has become an integral part of
it, and cannot be uprooted. Hence, as Mr. Lynch observes, “the wisest
habit of all is the habit of care in the formation of good habits.”
Even happiness itself may become habitual. There is a habit of looking
at the bright side of things, and also of looking at the dark side. Dr.
Johnson has said that the habit of looking at the best side of a thing is
worth more to a man than a thousand pounds a year. And we possess the
power, to a great extent, of so exercising the will as to direct the
thoughts upon objects calculated to yield happiness and improvement
rather than their opposites. In this way the habit of happy thought may
be made to spring up like any other habit. And to bring up men or women
with a genial nature of this sort, a good temper, and a happy frame of
mind, is perhaps of even more importance, in many cases, than to perfect
them in much knowledge and many accomplishments.
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