Authors, English -- 19th century -- Biography; Southey, Robert, 1774-1843
“There is a resignation with which, it may be feared, most of
us deceive ourselves. To bear what must be borne, and submit to
what cannot be resisted, is no more than what the unregenerate
heart is taught by the instinct of animal nature. But to
acquiesce in the afflictive dispensations of Providence—to make
one’s own will conform in all things to that of our Heavenly
Father—to say to him in the sincerity of faith, when we drink
of the bitter cup, ‘Thy will be done!’—to bless the name of
the Lord as much from the heart when he takes away as when he
gives, and with a depth of feeling of which, perhaps, none but
the afflicted heart is capable—this is the resignation which
religion teaches, this is the sacrifice which it requires.”
These words, written with no forefeeling, were the last put on paper
before the great calamity burst upon Southey. “I have been parted from
my wife,” he tells Grosvenor Bedford on October 2, 1834, “by something
worse than death. Forty years she has been the life of my life; and I
have left her this day in a lunatic asylum.”
Southey’s union with his wife had been at the first one of love, and
use and wont had made her a portion of his very being. Their provinces
in the household had soon defined themselves. He in the library earned
their means of support; all else might be left to her with absolute
confidence in her wise contrivance and quiet energy. Beneath the divided
work in their respective provinces their lives ran on in deep and still
accord. Now he felt for the first time shrunk into the limits of a
solitary will. All that had grown out of the past was deranged by a
central disturbance; no branch had been lopped away, but the main trunk
was struck, and seared, and shaken to the roots. “Mine is a strong
heart,” Southey writes; “I will not say that the last week has been the
most trying of my life; but I will say that the heart which could bear
it can bear anything.” Yet, when he once more set himself to work, a
common observer, says his son, would have noticed little change in him,
though to his family the change was great indeed. His most wretched hour
was when he woke at dawn from broken slumbers; but a word of hope was
enough to counteract the mischief of a night’s unrest. No means were
neglected which might serve to keep him in mental and bodily health; he
walked in all weathers; he pursued his task-work diligently, yet not
over-diligently; he collected materials for work of his choice. When, in
the spring of 1835, it was found that the sufferer might return to wear
out the body of this death in her own home, it was marvellous, declares
Cuthbert Southey, how much of his old elasticity remained, and how,
though no longer happy, he could be contented and cheerful, and take
pleasure in the pleasures of others. He still could contribute something
to his wife’s comfort. Through the weary dream which was now her life she
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