Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
She began to detect
the morbid, chimerical, and unpractical aspects of his character,
and he realized that not only was his wife not an aristocrat,
but, what was of more importance to him, she was by no means the
domineering heroine of his dreams. Soon after marriage, in the
course of an innocent romp in which the whole of the small
household took part, he asked his wife to inflict a whipping on
him. She refused, and he thereupon suggested that the servant
should do it; the wife failed to take this idea seriously; but he
had it carried out, with great satisfaction at the severity of
the castigation he received. When, however, his wife explained to
him that, after this incident, it was impossible for the servant
to stay, Sacher-Masoch quite agreed and she was at once
discharged. But he constantly found pleasure in placing his wife
in awkward or compromising circumstances, a pleasure she was too
normal to share. This necessarily led to much domestic
wretchedness. He had persuaded her, against her wish, to whip him
nearly every day, with whips which he devised, having nails
attached to them. He found this a stimulant to his literary work,
and it enabled him to dispense in his novels with his stereotyped
heroine who is always engaged in subjugating men, for, as he
explained to his wife, when he had the reality in his life he was
no longer obsessed by it in his imaginative dreams. Not content
with this, however, he was constantly desirous for his wife to be
unfaithful. He even put an advertisement in a newspaper to the
effect that a young and beautiful woman desired to make the
acquaintance of an energetic man. The wife, however, though she
wished to please her husband, was not anxious to do so to this
extent. She went to an hotel by appointment to meet a stranger
who had answered this advertisement, but when she had explained
to him the state of affairs he chivalrously conducted her home.
It was some time before Sacher-Masoch eventually succeeded in
rendering his wife unfaithful. He attended to the minutest
details of her toilette on this occasion, and as he bade her
farewell at the door he exclaimed: "How I envy him!" This episode
thoroughly humiliated the wife, and from that moment her love for
her husband turned to hate. A final separation was only a
question of time. Sacher-Masoch formed a relationship with Hulda
Meister, who had come to act as secretary and translator to him,
while his wife became attached to Rosenthal, a clever journalist
later known to readers of the _Figaro_ as "Jacques St.-Cère," who
realized her painful position and felt sympathy and affection for
her. She went to live with him in Paris and, having refused to
divorce her husband, he eventually obtained a divorce from her;
she states, however, that she never at any time had physical
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