Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
I am indebted to a lady for the following communication on the
foregoing aspect of this question: "I believe that, when a person
takes pleasure in inflicting pain, he or she imagines himself or
herself in the victim's place. This would account for the
transmutability of the two sets of feelings. This might be
particularly so in the case of men. A man may not care to lower
his dignity and vanity by putting himself in subjection to a
woman, and he might fear she would feel contempt for him. By
subduing her and subjecting her to passive restraint he would
preserve, even enhance, his own power and dignity, while at the
same time obtaining a reflected pleasure from what he imagined
she was feeling.
"I think that when I get pleasure out of the idea of subduing
another it is this reflected pleasure I get. And if this is so
one could thus feel more kindly to persons guilty of cruelty,
which has hitherto always seemed the one unpardonable sin. Even
criminals, if it is true that they are themselves often very
insensitive, may, in the excitement of the moment, imagine that
they are only inflicting trifling pain, as it would be to them,
and that their victim's feelings are really pleasurable. The men
I have known most given to inflicting pain are all particularly
tender-hearted when their passions are not in question. I cannot
understand how (as in a case mentioned by Krafft-Ebing) a man
could find any pleasure in binding a girl's hands except by
imagining what he supposed were her feelings, though he would
probably be unconscious that he put himself in her place.
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