Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
Her chief delight would be to torture the man she was attached to
in every possible way; to inflict physical pain and mental pain
would give her equal pleasure. "I would bite him till the blood
came, as I have often done to my husband. At that moment all
sympathy for him would disappear." She frequently identifies her
imaginary lover with a real man to whom she feels that she could
be much more attracted than she is to her husband. She imagines
to herself that she makes appointments with this lover, and that
she reaches the rendezvous in her carriage, but only after her
lover has been waiting for her a very long time in the cold. Then
he must feel all her power, he must be her slave with no will of
his own, and she would torture him with various implements as
seemed good to her. She would use a rod, a riding-whip, bind him
and chain him, and so on. But it is to be noted that she declares
"_this could, in general, only give me enjoyment if the man
concerned endured such torture with a certain pleasure_. He must,
indeed, writhe with pain, but at the same time be in a state of
sexual ecstasy, followed by satisfaction." His pleasure must not,
however, be so great that it overwhelms his pain; if it did, her
own pleasure would vanish, and she has found witty her husband
that when in kissing him her bites have given him much pleasure
she has at once refrained.
It is further noteworthy that only the pain she herself had
inflicted would give her pleasure. If the lover suffered pain
from an accident or a wound she is convinced that she would be
full of sympathy for him. Outside her special sexual perversion
she is sympathetic and very generous. (Moll, _Konträre
Sexualempfindung_, 1899, pp. 507-510.)
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