Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
It may well be, as Kiernan has argued (_Alienist and
Neurologist_, 1891; ibid., 1902, p. 263), that in the disturbance
of emotional balance caused by grief the primitive instincts
become peculiarly apt to respond to stimulus, and that in the
aboulia of grief the mind is specially liable to become the prey
to obsessions.
"When my child died at the age of 6 months," a correspondent
writes, "I had a violent paroxysm of weeping and for some days I
could not eat. When I kissed the dead boy for the last time (I
had never seen a corpse before) I felt I had reached the depths
of misery and could never smile or have any deep emotions again.
Yet that night, though my thoughts had not strayed to sexual
subjects since the child's death, I had a violent erection. I
felt ashamed to desire carnal things when my dead child was still
in the house, and explained to my wife. She was sympathetic, for
her idea was that our common grief had intensified my love for
her. I feel convinced, however, that my desire was the result of
a stimulus propagated to the sexual centers from the centers
affected by my grief, the transference of my emotion from one set
of nerves to another. I do not perhaps express my meaning
clearly."
How far the emotional influence of grief entered into the
following episode it is impossible to say, for here it is
probable that we are mainly concerned with one of those almost
irresistible impulses by which adolescent girls are sometimes
overcome. The narrative is from the lips of a reliable witness, a
railway guard, who, some thirty years ago, when a youth of 18, in
Cornwall, lodged with a man and woman who had a daughter of his
own age. Some months later, when requiring a night's lodging, he
called at the house, and was greeted warmly by the woman, who
told him her husband had just died and that she and her daughter
were very nervous and would be glad if he would stay the night,
but that as the corpse occupied the other bedroom he would have
to share their bed ("We don't think very much of that among us,"
my informant added). He agreed, and went to bed, and when, a
little later, the two women also came to bed, the girl, at her
own suggestion, lay next to the youth. Nothing happened during
the night, but in the morning, when the mother went down to light
the fire, the daughter immediately threw off the bedclothes,
exposing her naked person, and before the youth had realized what
was happening she had drawn him over on to her. He was so utterly
surprised that nothing whatever happened, but the incident made a
life-long impression on him.
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