Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
We are told that in the East there was once a woman named Moârbeda who was
a philosopher and considered to be the wisest woman of her time. When
Moârbeda was once asked: "In what part of a woman's body does her mind
reside?" she replied: "Between her thighs." To many women,--perhaps,
indeed, we might even say to most women,--to a certain extent may be
applied--and in no offensive sense--the dictum of the wise woman of the
East; in a certain sense their brains are in their wombs. Their mental
activity may sometimes seem to be limited; they may appear to be passing
through life always in a rather inert or dreamy state; but, when their
sexual emotions are touched, then at once they spring into life; they
become alert, resourceful, courageous, indefatigable. "But when I am not
in love I am nothing!" exclaimed a woman when reproached by a French
magistrate for living with a thief. There are many women who could truly
make the same statement, not many men. That emotion, which, one is tempted
to say, often unmans the man, makes the woman for the first time truly
herself.
"Women are more occupied with love than men," wrote De Sénancour
(_De l'Amour_, vol. ii, p. 59); "it shows itself in all their
movements, animates their looks, gives to their gestures a grace
that is always new, to their smiles and voices an inexpressible
charm; they live for love, while many men in obeying love feel
that they are forgetting themselves."
Restif de la Bretonne (_Monsieur Nicolas_, vol. vi, p. 223)
quotes a young girl who well describes the difference which love
makes to a woman: "Before I vegetated; now all my actions have a
motive, an end; they have become important. When I wake my first
thought is 'Someone is occupied with me and desires me.' I am no
longer alone, as I was before; another feels my existence and
cherishes it," etc.
"One is surprised to see in the south," remarks Bonstetten, in
his suggestive book, _L'Homme du Midi et l'Homme du Nord_
(1824),--and the remark by no means applies only to the
south,--"how love imparts intelligence even to those who are most
deficient in ideas. An Italian woman in love is inexhaustible in
the variety of her feelings, all subordinated to the supreme
emotion which dominates her. Her ideas follow one another with
prodigious rapidity, and produce a lambent play which is fed by
her heart alone. If she ceases to love, her mind becomes merely
the scoria of the lava which yesterday had been so bright."
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