Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
When he was 15 T. made the acquaintance of a pretty blonde of the
same age. She was a high-spirited hoiden. They were soon close
friends and later lovers. They wrote a number of letters to each
other and exchanged locks of hair and presents. Their talk about
love was unreserved. One day she told T. that she had been
sexually embraced by a former lover, a boy of 16, hinting very
plainly that she would like T. to embrace her. This amour lasted
for about six months. The lovers had many opportunities for
clandestine intercourse. They used to consummate their passion in
a part of a wood they called "the bower." Now and then one or the
other would experience a pricking of conscience, but they were
too passionately attached to each other to sever the intimacy. At
length the girl began to dread the risk of conception and the
intercourse ceased. Looking back upon this episode T. avers that
the attachment and its physical expression seemed quite natural,
poetic, and beautiful, though at times his religious principles
condemned his conduct. He now thinks that the experience is by no
means to be regretted either by the girl or himself. It was a
wholesome youthful passion, as innocent as the mating of birds,
and the insight which it gave to both of the hidden emotions of
human nature was morally advantageous in after-life.
T. believes that his amative precocity was due to the early
awakening of sex feeling by the servant-girl. But he also
believes that the love passion would have asserted itself early
in any case, since he inherits a warm temperament, had erectile
power long before puberty, and has considerable seminal capacity.
Having closely watched the effects of suppressed normal emotions
and desires in youth at the time of pubescence, he maintains that
such suppression is disastrous, causing unhealthy thoughts and
leading to the formation of a habit of masturbation which may
persist throughout life. He believes that temporary sexual
intimacies between boys and girls under 20 from the period of
puberty would be far less harmful than separation of the sexes
until marriage, with its resultants: masturbation, hysteria,
repressed and disordered functions in young women, seduction,
prostitution, venereal affections, and many other evils.
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