Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
"The changes of puberty came naturally and without startling me.
Even the fact of emissions--which took place during sleep at
intervals, unaccompanied by dreams or by any physical prostration
afterward--has left on my memory no recollection of surprise; I
knew it to be somehow connected with generation, but I had no
physical trouble, and I am quite sure I did not bother further
about it. The best possible proof of this lies in the fact that
my memory is a blank on the matter. At the age of 21 (I take this
from a diary, so I know it is correct) I was still ignorant as to
intrinsic fact. Then I pulled myself together and felt it was
really time I learned the actual details of the matter. I went to
a clever friend of mine and asked him to tell me all about it. He
expressed himself astounded at my not knowing; and he had very
great shyness about telling me. In fact, I had to drag facts out
of him by a real cross-examination, during which he persistently
marveled at my ignorance. Though he had a great deal of false
shame about the matter, I had none at all. His revelations
considerably surprised me, because I had no idea that there was
actual intromission. When I came to reflect on what I had learned
the fact of this close physical intimacy appealed to me as being
quite poetic and beautiful between two lovers; and I have had no
reason since to change my opinion.
"_Summary._--1. Romantic interest in girls and women commencing
early and remaining persistently.
"2. Knowledge before puberty of the fact that this interest was
based on the all-important process of reproduction.
"3. Absence of further physical curiosity even at puberty itself.
"4. Knowledge ultimately acquired without shock.
"The physical in sex has never been any bother to me, neither
have I bothered about it. I have recognized it, frankly, and
don't see why I shouldn't, but my unashamed recognition has
probably been because the merely physical is less absorbing to me
than to most. Mental and emotional interest in passion has
absorbed me greatly, but the merely physical has sunk into what
I call its natural place of subordination. Nature is kind. It is
our 'conspiracy of silence' which tends to emphasize physical
detail."
HISTORY VII.--G.D., who is a doctor and a man of science, writes:
"There is a strong history of gout on the paternal side. No
history of alcohol, tubercle, brain trouble, or of the
arthropathies. There is some reason to believe that two of my
maternal aunts were sexually frigid, and perhaps this was true to
a less extent of my mother, who had a contracted pelvis,
necessitating the induction of labor at the eighth month of
pregnancy.
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