Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in WomenEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3: Analysis of the Sexual Impulse; Love and Pain; The Sexual Impulse in Women
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
"I was much in the society of girls of my own age or older during
these years and until I was 19. I found with them a keen and
entirely pure and wholesome enjoyment utterly separate and apart
from the desires and indulgences which I have been describing. I
never cared for any girl who was 'forward' or in any way
unladylike, and the idea of taking any undue liberties with any
of my youthful sweethearts was as remote from my thoughts as a
trip to the moon. Perhaps I can say this better and more
distinctly by stating that I would be perfectly willing to have
my wife know of, or my boys repeat, any action that I ever took
with any woman.
"I spent my spare time in their society and lavished upon my girl
companions every cent I could spare, but had no thought of
immediate sex desire or gratification. At the age of 17 I went as
an apprentice in my present profession of dentistry. Whenever it
became necessary for me, in assisting at the operating chair, to
touch a lady's hair or face, I would be seized with the utmost
confusion and could with difficulty control my hands so that they
did not tremble. This soon wore off as I came to a realization of
the true professional spirit and attitude toward all patients,
and, needless to say, has now become a matter of the utmost
indifference to me.
"From 19 to 22 I attended a professional school in a large city,
remote from my home, where I was an utter stranger. During these
years I devoted myself to my professional studies and to music
with much diligence. I took an active part in all student life
and problems save only that of the 'eternal feminine.'
"Frequently I have been out with a crowd of 'the boys' when they
headed for a brothel, and have been the only one to turn back or
to remain on the sidewalk as the door closed behind my last
companion. I say this not in self-praise, but in the same spirit
of accuracy which has prompted me to put down everything
concerning this greatest mystery of our natures as I have
experienced it and worked it out.
"It was during these three years at school that I placed upon
myself the most stringent and effective curbs to my sex nature. I
somehow never could 'get my own consent' to go to a brothel or
stay with a 'soiled dove,' for I had by this time firmly resolved
that I would bring to my wife, whoever she might turn out to be,
a clean body at least. I limited myself in my autoexcitement to
one emission a week and on one or two occasions went two weeks
without inducing an emission. Spontaneous nocturnal emissions
were quite common during these years. I cannot state just how
frequent they were, but perhaps one a week would be a fair
average.
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