Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 4: Sexual Selection In ManEllis, Havelock
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Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 4: Sexual Selection In Man
Ellis, Havelock
Sex; Sex (Psychology)
"The first occasion on which I can recollect experiencing
sensations or emotions similar in character to later and more
developed feelings of desire was at the age of about 7 or 8, when
I was a dayboy at a large school in a country town and absolutely
innocent as to deed, thought, or knowledge. I fell in love with a
boy with whom I was brought in contact in my class, about my own
age. I remember thinking him pretty. He paid me no attention. I
had no distinct desire, except a wish to be near him, to touch
him, and to kiss him. I blushed if I suddenly saw him, and
thought of him when absent and speculated on my chances of seeing
him again. I was put into a state of high ecstasy when he invited
me to join him and some friends one summer evening in a game of
rounders.
"At the age of 8 I was told by my father's groom where babies
came from and how they were produced. (I already knew the
difference in sexual organs, as my sister and I were bathed in
the same room.) He told me no details about erection, semen, etc.
Nor did he take any liberties with me. I used to notice him
urinating; he used to push back the foreskin and I thought his
penis large.
"When about 8 years old the nursemaid told me that the boy at her
last place had intercourse with his sister. I thought it
disgusting. About a year later I told the nurse I thought the
story of Adam and Eve was not true and that when Eve gave Adam
the apple he had intercourse with her and she was punished by
having children. I don't know if I had thought this out, or if it
had been suggested to me by others. This nurse used often to talk
about my 'tassel.'
"A family of several brothers went to the same school with me,
and we used to indulge in dirty stories, chiefly, however, of the
w.c. type rather than sexual.
"When I was about 10 I learned much from my father's coachman. He
used to talk about the girls he had had intercourse with, and how
he would have liked this with my nursemaid.
"A year later I went to a large day school. I think most of the
boys, if not nearly all, were very ignorant and innocent in
sexual matters. The only incident in this connection I can
recollect is asking a boy to let me see his penis; he did so.
"During the summer holidays, at a watering place I attended a
theatrical performance and fell in love with a girl of about 12
who acted a part. I bought a photograph of her, which I kept and
kissed for several years after. About the same time I thought
rather tenderly of a girl of my own age whose parents knew mine.
I remember feeling that I should like to kiss her. Once I
furtively touched her hair.
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