Sometimes these justifications are pitiful examples of quibbling. A boy
had been rough with his baby brother. His mother chid him, telling him
he might hurt baby. He then asked his mother, ‘Isn’t he my own brother?’
and on his mother admitting so incontestable a proposition, exclaimed
triumphantly, “Well, you said I could do what I liked with _my own_
things”. The idea of the precious baby being a boy’s own to do what he
likes with is so remote from older people’s conceptions that it seems
impossible to credit the boy with misunderstanding. We ought, perhaps,
to set him down as a depraved little sophist and destined—but
predictions happily lie outside our _métier_.
In some cases these justifications have a dreadful look of being
after-thoughts invented for the express purpose of self-protection and
knowingly put forward as fibs. Yet there is need of a wise
discrimination here. Take, for example, the following from the Worcester
Collection. A boy of three was told by his mother to stay and mind his
baby-sister while she went downstairs. On going up again some time after
she met him on the stairs. “Being asked why he had left the baby he said
there was a bumble-bee in the room and he was afraid he would get stung
if he stayed there. His mother asked him if he wasn’t afraid his little
sister would get stung. He said, ‘Yes,’ but added that if he stayed in
the room the bee might sting them both, and then she would have two to
take care of.” Now with every wish to be charitable I cannot bring
myself to think that the small boy had really gone through that subtle
process of disinterested calculation before vacating the room in favour
of the bumble-bee, if indeed there was a bumble-bee. To be caught in the
act and questioned is, I suspect, a situation particularly productive of
such specious fibbing.
One other illustration of this keen childish dialectic when face to face
with the accuser deserves to be touched on. The sharp little wits have
something of a lawyer’s quickness in detecting a flaw in the indictment.
Any exaggeration into which a feeling of indignation happens to betray
the accuser is instantly pounced upon. If, for example, a child is
scolded for pulling kitty’s ears and making her cry it is enough for the
little stickler for accuracy to be able to say: ‘I wasn’t pulling
kitty’s _ears_, I was only pulling _one_ of her ears’. This ability to
deny the charge in its initial form gives the child a great advantage,
and robs the accusation in its amended form of much of its sting.
Whence, by the way, one may infer that wisdom in managing children shows
itself in nothing more than in a scrupulous exactness in the use of
words.
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