One other way in which the wise mother will win the child over to duty
is by developing his consciousness of freedom and power. A mother, who
was herself a well-known writer for children, has recorded in some notes
on her children that when one of her little girls had declined to accede
to her wish she used to say to her: ‘Oh, yes, I think when you have
remembered how pleasant it is to oblige others you will do it’. ‘I will
think about it, mamma,’ the child would reply, laughing, and then go and
hide her head behind a sofa-pillow which she called her ‘thinking
corner’. In half a minute she would come out and say: “Oh, yes, mamma, I
have thought about it and I will do it”. This strikes me as an admirable
combination of regulative suggestion with exercise of the young will in
moral decision. It gave the child the consciousness of using her own
will, and yet maintained the needed measure of guidance and control.
As the moral consciousness develops and new problems arise, new openings
for such suggestive guidance will offer themselves. How valuable, for
example, is the mother’s encouragement of the weakly child, shrinking
from a difficult self-repressive action, when she says with inspiring
voice: ‘You _can_ do it if you try’. Thus pilot-like she conducts the
little navigator out into the open main of duty where he will have to
steer himself.
I have tried to show that the moral training of children is not beyond
human powers. It has its strong supports in child-nature, and these,
when there are wisdom and method on the ruler’s side, will secure
success. I have not said that the trainer’s task is easy. So far from
thinking this, I hold that a mother who bravely faces the problem,
neither abandoning the wayward will to its own devices, nor, hardly less
weakly, handing over the task of disciplining it to a paid substitute,
and who by well-considered and steadfast effort succeeds in approaching
the perfection I have hinted at, combining the wise ruler with the
tender and companionable parent, is among the few members of our species
who are entitled to its reverence.
IX.
THE CHILD AS ARTIST.
One of the most interesting, perhaps also one of the most instructive,
phases of child-life is the beginnings of art-activity. This has been
recognised by one of the best-known workers in the field of
child-psychology, M. Bernard Perez, who has treated the subject in an
interesting monograph.[197] This department of our subject will, like
that of language, be found to have interesting points of contact with
the phenomena of primitive race-culture.
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Footnote 197:
_L’Art et la Poésie chez l’Enfant_, 1888.
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