In tracing evils of any kind, which exist in society, we must,
after all, be brought up against the great cause of all
mischief--_mismanagement in education_; and this remark applies
with peculiar force to the leading fault of the present day, viz.
extravagance. It is useless to expend our ingenuity in purifying the
stream, unless the fountain be cleansed. If young men and young
women are brought up to consider frugality contemptible, and industry
degrading, it is vain to expect they will at once become prudent and
useful, when the cares of life press heavily upon them. Generally
speaking, when misfortune comes upon those who have been accustomed to
thoughtless expenditure, it sinks them to discouragement, or, what is
worse, drives them to desperation. It is true there are exceptions.
There are a few, an honorable few, who, late in life, with Roman
severity of resolution, learn the long-neglected lesson of economy.
But how small is the number, compared with the whole mass of the
population! And with what bitter agony, with what biting humiliation,
is the hard lesson often learned! How easily might it have been
engrafted on _early habits_, and naturally and gracefully 'grown with
their growth, and strengthened with their strength!'
Yet it was but lately that I visited a family, not of 'moderate
fortune,' but of no fortune at all; one of those people who live
'nobody knows how;' and I found a young girl, about sixteen,
practising on the piano, while an elderly lady beside her was darning
her stockings. I was told (for the mother was proud of bringing up her
child so genteelly) that the daughter had almost forgotten how to
sew, and that a woman was hired into the house to do her mending! 'But
why,' said I, 'have you suffered your daughter to be ignorant of so
useful an employment? If she is poor, the knowledge will be necessary
to her; if she is rich, it is the easiest thing in the world to lay it
aside, if she chooses; she will merely be a better judge whether her
work is well done by others.' 'That is true,' replied the mother; 'and
I always meant she should learn; but she never has seemed to have any
time. When she was eight years old, she could put a shirt together
pretty well; but since that, her music, and her dancing, and her
school, have taken up her whole time. I did mean she should learn
some domestic habits this winter; but she has so many visiters, and is
obliged to go out so much, that I suppose I must give it up. I don't
like to say too much about it; for, poor girl! she does so love
company, and she does so hate anything like care and confinement!
_Now_ is her time to enjoy herself, you know. Let her take all the
comfort she can, while she is single!' 'But,' said I, 'you wish her
to marry some time or other; and, in all probability, she will marry.
When will she learn how to perform the duties, which are necessary
and important to every mistress of a family?' 'Oh, she will learn
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