There are some men who turn a deaf ear to reason and good advice, and wilfully go wrong for fear of being controlled. There are others who allow their friends to control them in trifling things, and thence presume to control them in things of weight and consequence. Drance[198] would fain pass for a man who rules his master, though his master and the world know better. For a man in office to talk incessantly to his employer, a man of high rank, at improper times and places, to be always whispering or using certain words with mysterious intent, to laugh boisterously in his presence, to interrupt him when he speaks, to interfere when others address him, to treat with contempt those who come to pay their court to his master, or express impatience till they are gone, to stand near him in too unconstrained an attitude, to lean with his back against the chimney-mantel as his master does, to pluck him by his coat, to tread upon his heels, to affect a certain familiarity and to take such liberties, are signs of a coxcomb rather than of a favourite. An intelligent man neither allows himself to be controlled nor attempts to control others; he wishes reason alone to rule, and that always. Had I a friend, a man of sense, I should not object to confide in him, and to be controlled by him in everything, completely and for ever. I should then be sure of acting rightly without the trouble of thinking about it, whilst enjoying all the calm of a man swayed by common-sense. (72.) All passions are deceptive; they conceal themselves as much as possible from others and from themselves as well. No vice exists which does not pretend to be more or less like some virtue, and which does not take advantage of this assumed resemblance. (73.) We open a book of devotion, and it affects us; we open a book of gallantry, and that, too, impresses us. If I may say so, it is the heart alone which reconciles things so opposed to one another, and allows incompatibilities. (74.) Men are less ashamed of their crimes than of their weaknesses and their vanity. The same man who is openly unjust, violent, treacherous, and a slanderer, will conceal his love or his ambition for no other reason but to conceal it. (75.) It rarely happens that a man can say he is ambitious, for if he has been so once, he remains so; but there comes a time when he admits he has been in love. (76.) Men begin with love and end with ambition, and are seldom free from passion till they die. (77.) Nothing is easier for passion than to overcome reason, but the greatest triumph is to conquer a manʼs own interests. (78.) A man who is swayed by his feelings is more sociable and agreeable to converse with than one who is swayed by his intelligence. (79.) There are certain sublime sentiments, certain noble and lofty actions, for which we are indebted rather to the kindness of our disposition than to the strength of our mind. (80.) There is no excess in the world so commendable as excessive gratitude.