The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.Philips, Samuel
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The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.
Philips, Samuel
Family; Home; Marriage; Parent and child
True Christian home-discipline lies in a medium between these. It involves
the union of true parental sympathy and authority, of proper love and
proper law; for affection, when not united to authority and law,
degenerates into sentimental fondness; and authority and law, when, not
tempered with love, degenerate into brutal tyranny, and produce inward
servility and outward bondage. The parents who are, in discipline, prompted
by the first, may be loved, but will not be respected. Those who are ruled
by the second, may be dreaded, but will not be loved. The first does
violence to law, and ends in the insubordination of the child and the
imbecility of the parent. The second does violence to love, makes duty a
task, correction a corporeal punishment, the child a slave, the parent a
despot, and ends consequently in the destruction of natural affection.
Hence, in home-discipline, true severity and true sympathy should unite and
temper each other. Without this the very ends proposed will be frustrated.
True home-discipline repudiates the legal idea of punishment as much as of
impunity. It lies in a medium between these, and involves the idea of
Christian correction or chastisement. We should correct, but not punish our
children. Correction is not the mere execution of legal penalties as such,
but the fruit of Christian love and concern for the child. It does not mean
simple corporeal chastisement, but moral restraints. The impunity is the
fruit of love without law; the corporeal punishment is the execution of law
without love; Christian correction is the interposition of love acting
according to law in restraining the child. Hence, true discipline is the
correction of the child by the love of the parent, according to the laws of
home-government.
Abraham instituted in his household a model system of home-discipline. "I
know him," says God, "that he will command his children and his household
after him, and they shall keep the ways of the Lord to do justice and
judgment." He was not a tyrant; his comrades did not bear the rough
sternness of a despot, neither did his power wear the scowl of vengeance.
But these bore the firmness and decision of love tempered and directed by
the law of Christian duty and responsibility. They showed his station as a
father; they wore the exponent of his authority as a parent, whose love was
a safeguard against tyranny on the one hand, and whose accountability to
God was a security against anarchy, on the other. Hence, his children
respected his station, venerated his name, appreciated his love, confided
in his sympathy, and yielded a voluntary obedience to his commands; for
they discerned in them the blessing; and when offenses came, they bent in
the spirit of loving submission and pupilage, under his rod of correction,
and kissed it as the means of their reformation and culture.
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