The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.Philips, Samuel
Religion
The Christian Home: As it is in the Sphere of Nature and the Church; Showing the Mission, Duties, Influences, Habits, and Responsibilities of Home, its Education, Government, and Discipline; with Hints on "Match Making," and the Relation of Parents to the Marriage Choice of their Children; together with a consideration of the Tests in the Selection of a Companion, Etc.
Philips, Samuel
Family; Home; Marriage; Parent and child
They should not give them more than a competency. That they should lay by
something for them is conceded by all. This is both a right and a duty. It
is included in the obligation to provide for them; and he who does it not
"hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel." Natural affection, as
well as supernatural faith, stimulates the parent to provide thus for his
offspring.
But this does not demand a great fortune; but a simple competency, that is,
just enough to meet their immediate wants and emergencies when they enter
the world and begin business-life. This competence should correspond with
the social position they occupied under the parental roof. It should not
go beyond this; it should be just enough to meet the social and financial
exigencies of the child. It should be measured also by the peculiar
necessities of the child, by his health, abilities and circumstances. "A
parent is justified," says Paley in his Moral and Political Philosophy, "in
making a difference between his children according as they stand in greater
or less need of the assistance of his fortune, in consequence of the
difference of their age or sex, or of the situations in which they are
placed, or the various success which they have met with."
Now the law of competence does not demand, yea, it forbids, more than a
sufficiency to meet these peculiar exigencies of the child. Those parents
who seek for more, become parsimonious, unfaithful to the moral interests
of their household, and indifferent to all legitimate objects of charity
and benevolence. These are indeed but the necessary fruits of
unfaithfulness to this law; for the course of God's providence indicates
the impossibility of our faithfulness to the duty of Christian beneficence,
and at the same time lay up for our children more than a sufficiency. We
find indeed, that in almost every instance in which parents have
transcended the limits of competence, and thus raised their children above
the necessity of doing anything themselves for a subsistence, God has
cursed the act, and the canker of His displeasure has consumed this
ill-saved property. That curse we see often in the prodigality and
dissipation of the children. They walk in the slippery paths of sin, kneel
at the altar of Mammon, fare sumptuously every day, as prodigal in spending
their fortune as their parents were penurious in amassing it, until at last
they come to want, rush into crime, and end their unhappy life in the
state's prison, or upon the gibbet.
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