Marriages that are made up at watering-places are mostly of this
running sort; and there may be reason to think that they are even less
likely to lead to—I will not say happiness, but to a very humble
degree of contentment,—than those which are a plain business of
bargain and sale; for into these latter a certain degree of prudence
enters on both sides. But there is a distinction to be made here: the
man who is married for mere worldly motives, without a spark of
affection on the woman's part, may nevertheless get, in every worldly
sense of the word, a good wife; and while English women continue to be
what, thank Heaven they are, he is likely to do so: but when a woman
is married for the sake of her fortune, the case is altered, and the
chances are five hundred to one that she marries a villain, or at best
a scoundrel.
Falling in love, and running in love are both, as every body knows,
common enough; and yet less so than what I shall call catching love.
Where the love itself is imprudent, that is to say where there is some
just prudential cause or impediment why the two parties should not be
joined together in holy matrimony, there is generally some degree of
culpable imprudence in catching it, because the danger is always to be
apprehended, and may in most cases be avoided. But sometimes the
circumstances may be such as leave no room for censure, even when
there may be most cause for compassion; and under such circumstances
our friend, though the remembrance of the Burgemeester's daughter was
too vivid in his imagination for him ever to run in love, or at that
time deliberately to walk into it, as he afterwards did,—under such
circumstances I say, he took a severe affection of this kind. The
story is a melancholy one, and I shall relate not it in this place.
The rarest, and surely the happiest marriages are between those who
have grown in love. Take the description of such a love in its rise
and progress, ye thousands and tens of thousands who have what is
called a taste for poetry,—take it in the sweet words of one of the
sweetest and tenderest of English Poets; and if ye doubt upon the
strength of my opinion whether Daniel deserves such praise, ask Leigh
Hunt, or the Laureate, or Wordsworth, or Charles Lamb.
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