(_e_) The view is very general that the corporal punishment of
children plays an essential part in the process of education. The
child becomes to some extent accustomed to such punishment, whereby
the punishment ceases to be effective; as a result of this, yet more
severe punishment is inflicted.
(_f_) Alcoholism is a cause, both direct and indirect, of the
maltreatment of children. The father of a family who, in a state of
intoxication, will maltreat his family, and who, when sober again, is
bitterly ashamed of himself, is a familiar figure.
(_g_) Maltreatment of children (especially by clergymen, monks, and
nuns) often depends on the belief that it is necessary to mortify
the flesh in order to save the soul. There is also some connection
between exaggerated piety and sexual perversion.
(_h_) A quite considerable proportion of cases in which children are
maltreated are dependent upon sexual motives. But the maltreatment of
a child may give rise to sexual excitement, not only in the active
agent, but also in the passive. Cases of this nature occur chiefly in
the upper classes.
(_i_) In an unhappy marriage, one of the parents will often maltreat
the child simply because the latter loves the other parent.
Ill-usage of children may be the act either of relatives or of
strangers. Among the relatives, we have first of all the unmarried
mother; secondly, the natural father; thirdly, the stepmother;
fourthly, the lawful parents. Among strangers, we have chiefly to
consider teachers and foster-parents.
(_a_) Among children suffering from gross ill-treatment, we find a
preponderance, in view of their respective numbers, of illegitimate
as compared with legitimate children.
(_b_) We are always told that an illegitimate child will be horribly
ill-treated if its mother marries, not the child’s father, but
another man. It will be ill-treated by the man because it is a
stepchild, and by the woman because it interferes with her relations
to her husband, and awakens unpleasant memories. But these views are
exaggerated.
(_c_) The rôle of the stepmother is also commonly exaggerated. It
is easier to excuse a stepmother for ill-treating a child than it
is to excuse the child’s own parents. When all is said and done, it
is impossible to expect a stepmother to have the same love for the
stepchild as for the children of her own body, and it is only natural
that the stepchild which stands between her and her husband should be
differently treated from her own children. A stepchild is certainly
more likely to be ill-used when the stepmother has children of her
own.
(_d_) A mother is more likely to ill-treat children than a father.
The father cannot love children so well as a mother, nor can he hate
them to the same extent.
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