In the last analysis a high self-valuation is part of the chronic
choleric make-up, a conceit of overweening proportions. The man
who realizes his own proneness to err, and who keeps in mind the
relative unimportance of his aims and powers, is not apt to
explode in the face of opposition or contradiction. G. is as a
rule absolutely sure of his belief, tastes and importance, though
he is crude in knowledge, coarse in tastes and of no particular
importance except to himself. He is the "I am Sir Oracle; when I
ope my lips let no dog bark."
Anger is often associated with brutality or deeds of violence.
There is cold-blooded brutality, but by far the most of it has
anger behind it. I know one man who in his youth was
hot-tempered, i. e., quick to anger and quick to repent, a
charming man who gradually learned control and passed into late
middle life serene and amiable.
One day he was driving his car when it became obstructed by two
young rowdies driving another car. With him was his wife. When he
expostulated with the men, one of them turned with a sneer and
said something insulting at which the other laughed. The next
thing my friend knew he was in the other car, striking heavy
blows at the pair (he is a very powerful man.), and it was only
the opportune arrival of a policeman that prevented a murder.
"Whatever came over me I hardly understand," said he afterwards
sadly. "I used to have rages like that as a boy, but I have been
very well controlled for over thirty years. I was a raging demon
for a while, and it appalls me to think that in me there lurks
such a devil of anger."
Akin to anger, akin to fear, is suspicion. There is a sullen
non-social personality type whose reactions are characterized by
suspicion. He never willingly gives his trust to any one, and
when he hands over his destinies to any one, as all must do now
and then, he is consumed with dread, doubt and latent hostility.
Every one is familiar with men like H. He is full of distrust for
his fellow men. Himself a man of low ideals, he ascribes to every
one the same attitude. "What's in it for you?" is his first
thought concerning anybody with whom he deals.
He has a little store and eyes each customer who comes in as if
they come to rob him. As a result his trade is largely emergency,
transient trade, those who come because they have nowhere else to
go or else do not know him. The salesmen, who supply the articles
he sells have long since cut him off their list for desirable
goods, and his only callers are those salesmen who are working up
new lines and are under orders to try every one. H. has moments
and days when he believes the whole world is against him, and on
such occasions he locks his store and refuses to see any one. But
at his best he cannot yield his ego to full free intercourse with
others. It seems as though there were a hard shell surrounding
him, and the world as it flowed around never brought love and
trust through to him.
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