The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
It is not caste alone that makes the rules that govern the life and
actions of the Indian woman, but from birth to the burning-ground every
detail of life is cast into a mould of ceremony and ritual, which in the
hands of a less spiritual people would have degenerated into mere sham.
Of the sixteen events in the life of a man, all are viewed from a
religious aspect, and accompanied by a religious ceremony. The most
sacred prayers are said in the morning before partaking of food, and it
is the husband, the head of the house, who is supposed to say the
prayers for all beneath his roof-tree. “No sacrifice is allowed to women
apart from their husbands, no religious rite, no fasting; as far as a
wife honours her lord, so far is she exalted in heaven,” says the laws
of Manu, yet the instinct of religion is strong in the Hindu woman, as
it is in women all over the world, and they do perform a worship. At the
time of her marriage, at the marriage of her children, and at many of
the sacred feasts, the wife must sit with her husband during the time he
is engaged in the performance of the acts of worship, though she takes
no active part in the ceremonies. If a man has lost his wife, he cannot
perform the sacrifice of fire.
The Hindu woman has her gods, which she keeps in the kitchen, the most
sacred room in a Hindu household. In all the time I was in India I never
saw the inside of the kitchen of any of my Indian friends. I have been
told that it is divided into two parts, the smaller room used for the
cooking and as pantry for the storing of food, and must be kept free
from ceremonial defilement. The larger half of the kitchen of a
middle-class household serves as dining-room, and in an alcove or in one
corner are the household gods and the utensils to be used in their
worship. None of the images used by a woman are consecrated, but she
lights her lamp and bows her head and prays for the safety of her dear
ones, then offers a bit of fruit or betel or a sweetmeat that she has
prepared, and scatters sandal paste and coloured rice or the petals of
sweet-smelling flowers over her god. There is generally in each tiny
yard or in the kitchen a tulasi plant, around which the women walk while
chanting a prayer. This plant is considered the wife of Vishnu, and is
revered by all. There are many blessings promised to one who attends and
waters one of these plants, and it will keep care and tribulation from
its worshippers and grant pardon to the sinner who cherishes the tulasi
plant. Yet it is more particularly worshipped by women. At one time, it
is said, women were commanded to walk around it one hundred and eight
times each day, which certainly was a blessing from a hygienic point of
view, as it gave exercise to these shut-in women, who are restricted to
the four walls of their homes.
At night when the lamps are lighted the wife makes obeisance to the
flame, saying—
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