The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental WomenCooper, Elizabeth
Religion
The Harim and the Purdah: Studies of Oriental Women
Cooper, Elizabeth
East Asia -- Social life and customs; Women -- East Asia
The mother-in-law of my friend has practically no social intercourse
with her son’s wife because she has broken caste, eats with Europeans,
and wears shoes made from leather. Her own mother at first felt her
daughter’s disgrace keenly, and would not see her for many years. At
last love triumphed over custom, and now the mother will visit the
daughter if assured that a place will be made ceremonially clean where
she may spread her mat of holy dharba grass, on which she sits while
chatting. She will receive nothing from the hand of her daughter,
neither water nor food, and when she returns home she takes a complete
bath and changes her wearing apparel that has become polluted by contact
with her daughter’s house.
Orthodox Hindus do not like sitting upon a mat of cloth or walking upon
a carpet. In many houses a wooden bench or board is kept for visitors.
The wife of a Resident in one of the Indian cities gave a reception to
which came several ladies from the conservative Hindu families. They
carefully avoided walking upon the rugs, and sat upon the edge of the
chairs, looking most unhappy. The wife of the Resident asked an advanced
Hindu lady why her afternoon was not a success so far as the Indian
guests were concerned. She was told that the only thought that possessed
these little women was a desire to get home. They wished to be polite
and stay as long as etiquette demanded, but they welcomed with avidity
the finality of the party when they might return and bathe and purify
themselves from the close contact of foreigners and Mohammedans.
The members of the Brahmo Samaj, that progressive offshoot of Hinduism,
have broken caste and allow their women to go about freely. I was in a
town of Southern India with a member of this sect, and we called upon
the head mistress of a large school for girls. She was at home with her
newly born baby, waiting for the forty days of uncleanness to pass
before returning to her school. She was a very intelligent woman,
talking freely of the good and the bad of their social system. She said
that a school for girls such as that of which she was the head, where
four hundred young girls were being educated in modern thought, would
have the greatest influence upon the women of the next generation, but
that it would take time to eradicate the instincts of generations of
ignorance and superstition, so deeply woven into the very nature of the
Indian woman.
At the close of the visit the baby was brought to me, and rather lacking
a subject for conversation I made the unfortunate remark to the baby,
“You will grow up a good Hindu and stick to your caste.” I was not
prepared for the storm of protest it raised from my friend who had
brought me to the home. She turned on me furiously and said: “How can
you say such things, you, a modern woman? Caste is the ruin of India. If
we want progress we must break caste: it is our only hope.”
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