The history of the condition of women, in various ages and nations (vol. 2 of 2) : $b Comprising the women of Europe, America, and South Sea IslandsChild, Lydia Maria
History
The history of the condition of women, in various ages and nations (vol. 2 of 2) : $b Comprising the women of Europe, America, and South Sea Islands
Child, Lydia Maria
Women -- History; Women -- Social conditions
The laws of England prevail in the United States, with slight
modifications. Marriages are not generally performed in the church,
because the dissenting sects are more numerous than Catholics or
Episcopalians. The ceremony is legal when performed by a magistrate,
but a clergyman is universally preferred. Fathers give portions to
daughters, according to their wealth, and it is a rare thing for a
bride to be entirely destitute. It is customary for women to purchase
their furniture, which is generally arranged in the house by some of
the bride’s female friends. Divorces are very uncommon. Infants are
never wrapped in the swaddling bands, ligatures, and biggins, still
used in many European countries. Of late years, even that pretty
ornament, the cap, is generally dispensed with, in conformity with
the advice of physicians, except at baptism and on other ceremonious
occasions. As yet, it is an uncommon circumstance, even among the rich,
for a mother not to nurse her own children.
Great freedom is allowed to young people; particularly during
courtship. In old times, the North Holland custom prevailed in interior
parts of the country, to considerable extent. It is a universal
practice for lovers to remain with the objects of their choice
several hours after other members of the family have retired to rest.
Aristocratic people do indeed consider this custom ungenteel, and
urge upon their daughters the scrupulous etiquette of more corrupt
countries. “The spirit of the age” is unfavorable to the old-fashioned
doctrine of “falling in love;” even literature, which formerly
represented this passion as the moving-spring of all human action,
now generally ridicules its power. This influence has extended in a
considerable degree to America; and mothers are not wanting who will
consent to sell their daughters to the highest bidder, though the
bargain is accompanied with formalities, supposed to render it much
more respectable than the sale of Circassian girls in the Turkish
markets. But while the country is so prosperous, and there are such
facilities for gaining a living, matches of interest will continue to
be exceptions to the general rule. Stolen marriages can be solemnized,
without the consent of friends, at Providence, Rhode Island, as at
Gretna Green, in Great Britain; but there is seldom any serious
opposition from parents to render such a step excusable.
There are very few convents in the United States. The nearest approach
to them among Protestants are the establishments of Shakers, where
the brethren and sisters live in different dwellings, and enter the
meeting-house by different doors. These people are proverbial for
neatness and industry; but their unnatural mode of life induces
something of automaton regularity, which is painful to a free spirit.
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