The House of Quiet: An AutobiographyBenson, Arthur Christopher
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The House of Quiet: An Autobiography
Benson, Arthur Christopher
Country life -- England -- Fiction; English fiction -- 20th century; Invalids -- Fiction
Indeed, to some morbid natures such pretences are vital—nay, self-respect
would be impossible without them. I know a lady who, like Mrs.
Wittiterly, is really kept alive by the excitement of being an invalid.
If she had not been so ill she would have died years ago. I know a worthy
gentleman who lives in London and spends his time in hurrying from house
to house lamenting how little time he can get to do what he really
enjoys—to read or think. Another has come to my mind who lives in a
charming house in the country, and by dint of inviting a few second-rate
literary and artistic people to his house and entertaining them royally,
believes himself to be at the very centre of literary and artistic life,
and essential to its continuance. These are harmless lives, not unhappy,
not useless; based, it is true, upon a false conception of the relative
importance of their own existence, but then is there one of us—the most
hard-working, influential, useful person in the world—who does not
exaggerate his own importance? Does any one realise how little essential
he is, or how easily his post is filled—indeed, how many people there are
who believe that they could do the same thing better if they only had the
chance.
A life to be happy must be compounded in due degree of activity and
pleasure, using the word in its best sense. There must be sufficient
activity to take off the perilous and acrid humours of the mind which,
left to themselves, poison the sources of life, and enough pleasure to
make the prospect of life palatable.
The first necessity is to get rid, as life goes on, of all conventional
pleasures. By the age of forty a man should know what he enjoys, and
not continue doing things intended to be pleasurable, either because he
deludes himself into thinking that he enjoys them, or because he likes
others to think that he enjoys them. I know now that I do not care for
casual country-house visiting, for dancing, for garden parties, for
cricket matches, and many another form of social distraction, but that
the pleasures that remain and grow are the pleasures derived from books,
from the sights and sounds of nature, from sympathetic conversation,
from music, and from active physical exercise in the open air. It is
my belief that a man is happiest who is so far employed that he has to
scheme to secure a certain share of such pleasures. My own life unhappily
is so ordered that it is the other way—that I have to scheme to secure
sufficient activities to make such pleasure wholesome. But I am stern
with myself. At times when I find the zest of simple home pleasures
deserting me, I have sufficient self-control deliberately to spend a week
in London, which I detest, or to pay a duty-visit where I am so acutely
and sharply bored by a dull society—_castigatio mea matutina est_—that I
return with delicious enthusiasm to my own trivial round.
[Sidenote: OUR OWN IMPORTANCE]
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