Henry Street Settlement (New York, N.Y.); Poor -- New York (State) -- New York
An intelligent observer of the effects of institution life on boys,
a Roman Catholic priest, established a temporary home in New York to
which they could come on their release from the institution until they
found employment and suitable places to board. His insight was shown
by his provision for the boys during their brief sojourn with him of
a formal table service, and weekly dances to which girls whom he knew
were invited. As he astutely observed, the boys often went into common
society, or society which made no demands, because, from their lack of
experience, they felt ill at ease in a circle where any conventions were
observed.
Where life goes by rule there is little spontaneous action or
conversation, but the children occasionally give clews to their passion
for personal relationships. In an institution which I knew the children
were allowed to write once a month to their friends. More than one
child without family ties took that opportunity to write letters to an
imaginary mother, to send messages of affection to imaginary brothers and
sisters, and to ask for personal gifts. They knew, of course, that the
letters would never leave the institution.
An unusual instance of intense longing for family life and the desire to
“belong” to someone was given by Tillie, who had lived all her life in
an orphan asylum. Sometimes she dreamed of her mother, and often asked
where she was. When she was ten years old the wife of the superintendent
told her that her mother had brought her to the asylum, but that all she
could remember about her was that she had red hair. From that day the
child’s desire to re-establish relations with her mother never flagged.
In the files of the asylum a letter was discovered from an overseer of
the poor in an upstate town, saying that the woman had wandered there. At
Tillie’s urgent request he was written to again, and after a search on
his part it was learned that she had been declared insane and taken to
the hospital at Rochester. The very day that Tillie was released from the
orphan asylum she secured money for the trip and went to Rochester. The
officials of the hospital received her kindly and took her into the ward
where, although she had no memory of having seen her, she identified
her mother—doubtless by the color of her hair. The mother, alas, did
not recognize her. Two years later the girl revisited the hospital and
found her mother enjoying an interval of memory. Tillie told me that
she learned “two important things”—that she had had a brother and my
name. How I was connected with the fortunes of the family the poor,
bewildered woman could not explain, and I have no recollection of her.
Tillie followed these clews, as she has every other. She has learned that
the brother was sent West with orphans from an Eastern institution, and
that he has joined the army. The devoted girl is making every effort to
establish a home to which she can bring the mother and brother, utterly
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