The Love Affairs of Lord ByronGribble, Francis Henry
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The Love Affairs of Lord Byron
Gribble, Francis Henry
Byron, George Gordon Byron, Baron, 1788-1824 -- Relations with women; Poets, English -- 19th century -- Biography
"If anything happens to my present _Amica_, I have done with passion
for ever, it is my _last_ love. As to libertinism, I have sickened
myself of that, as was natural in the way I went on, and have at least
derived that advantage from vice, to _love_ in the better sense of the
word. _This_ will be my last adventure. I can hope no more to inspire
attachment, and I trust never again to feel it."
But then, in a letter to Murray, dated August 9, there is a relapse and a
change of tone:
"My 'Mistress dear,' who hath 'fed my heart upon smiles and wine' for
the last two months, set out for Bologna with her husband this
morning, and it seems that I follow him at three to-morrow morning. I
cannot tell how our romance will end, but it hath gone on hitherto
most erotically--such perils and escapes--Juan's are a child's play in
comparison."
Gallantry, not passion, is the note there; but, on the other hand, passion
and not gallantry prevails in the letter to the Countess, written on a
blank page of her copy of "Corinne," which Byron had read in her garden in
her absence:
"My destiny rests with you, and you are a woman, seventeen years of
age, and two out of a convent. I wish that you had stayed there, with
all my heart, or, at least, that I had never met you in your married
state.
"But all this is too late. I love you and you love me--at least you
_say so_, and _act_ as if you _did_ so, which last is a great
consolation in all events. But _I_ more than love you, and cannot
cease to love you."
"Think of me, sometimes, when the Alps and the ocean divide us--but
they never will unless you _wish_ it."
A series of contradictions with which we must be content to be perplexed;
though perhaps they indicate nothing except that Byron changed his mind
from time to time, and was more in love on some days than on others. And
that, of course, it may be urged, is pretty much the same as saying that
he was not, in the fullest sense of the words, in love at all.
That his feelings for the Countess differed from his feelings for the
wives of the baker and the draper is, indeed, clear enough. Otherwise he
would not have drawn the invidious distinction which we have seen him
drawing between the "libertinism" of the earlier intrigues and the
"romance" of the later one. Those passions had depended solely on the
senses; into this one sentiment and intellectual sympathy entered. That is
what his biographers are thinking of when they say that the new attachment
either lifted him out of the mire or, at least, prevented him from
slipping back into it. That, in particular, is what Shelley meant when he
wrote of Byron as "greatly improved in every respect" and apparently
becoming "a virtuous man," and added, by way of explanation: "The
connection with La Guiccioli has been an inestimable benefit to him."
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