It is partly this impatience of obligation which makes a man desirous
of giving as requital more than he has received; for otherwise his
benefactor has still the superiority of having taken the initiative.
But also the worthier motive of affection urges us in the same
direction: and here, as in other affectionate services, we do not
like too exact a measure of duty; a certain excess falling short of
extravagance seems to be what we admire and praise. In so far, however,
as conflict of claims makes it needful to be exact, we think perhaps
that an equal return is what the duty of gratitude requires, or rather
willingness to make such a return, if it be required, and if it is in
our power to make it without neglecting prior claims. For we do not
think it obligatory to requite services in all cases, even if it be
in our power to do so, if the benefactor appear to be sufficiently
supplied with the means of happiness: but if he either demand it or
obviously stand in need of it, we think it ungrateful not to make an
equal return. But when we try to define this notion of ‘equal return,’
obscurity and divergence begin. For (apart from the difficulty of
comparing different kinds of services where we cannot make repayment
in kind) Equality has two distinct meanings, according as we consider
the effort made by the benefactor, or the service rendered to the
benefited. Now perhaps if either of these be great, the gratitude
is naturally strong: for the apprehension of great earnestness in
another to serve us tends to draw from us a proportionate response
of affection: and any great pleasure or relief from pain naturally
produces a corresponding emotion of thankfulness to the man who has
voluntarily caused this, even though his effort may have been slight.
And hence it has been suggested, that in proportioning the dues of
gratitude we ought to take whichever of the two considerations will
give the highest estimate. But this does not seem in accordance with
Common Sense: for the benefit may be altogether unacceptable, and it
is hard to bind us to repay in full every well-meant blundering effort
to serve us; though we feel vaguely that some return should be made
even for this. And though it is more plausible to say that we ought
to requite an accepted service without weighing the amount of our
benefactor’s sacrifice, still when we take extreme cases the rule seems
not to be valid: _e.g._ if a poor man sees a rich one drowning and
pulls him out of the water, we do not think that the latter is bound to
give as a reward what he would have been willing to give for his life.
Still, we should think him niggardly if he only gave his preserver
half-a-crown: which might, however, be profuse repayment for the cost
of the exertion. Something between the two seems to suit our moral
taste: but I find no clear accepted principle upon which the amount can
be decided.
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