We learn that it was a former custom to cut the bride-cake into little
squares or dice, small enough to be passed through the wedding-ring.
A slice drawn through the ring thrice (some have it nine times), and
afterward put under the pillow, will make an unmarried man or woman
dream of his or her future wife or husband. This is another of those
old customs of which trial is so often made “just for the fun of the
thing, you know!”
The _Charivari_, or mock serenade, is another custom still much
affected in many places, notably so in our rural districts, though to
our own mind “more honored in the breach than in the observance.” The
averred object is to make “night hideous,” and is usually completely
successful. In the wee sma’ hours, while sleeping peacefully in their
beds, the newly wedded pair are suddenly awakened by a most infernal
din under their windows, caused by the blowing of tin horns, the
thumping of tin pans, ringing of cowbells, and like instruments of
torture. To get rid of his tormentors the bridegroom is expected to
hold an impromptu reception, or, in other words, “to treat the crowd,”
which is more often the real object of this silly affair, to which we
fail to discover one redeeming feature.
The custom of wearing the wedding ring upon the left hand originated,
so we are told, in the common belief that the left hand lay nearest to
the heart.
As is well known, the Puritans tried to abolish the use of the ring in
marriage. According to Butler in “Hudibras”:--
“Others were for abolishing
That tool of matrimony--a ring
With which the unsatisfied bridegroom
Is married only to a thumb.”
The times have indeed changed since in the early days of New England
no Puritan maiden would have been married with a ring for worlds.
When Edward Winslow was cited before the Lord’s Commissioners of
Plantations, upon the complaint of Thomas Morton, he was asked among
other things about the marriage customs practised in the colony. He
answered frankly that the ceremony was performed by magistrates.
Morton, his accuser, declares that the people of New England held the
use of a ring in marriage to be “a relic of popery, a diabolical circle
for the Devell to daunce in.”
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